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Take relationship advice with a grain of salt.<\/p>\n

Many people today believe that they are\u00a0relationship \u201cexperts\u201d.<\/p>\n

But many times, they offer up bad relationship advice that, if followed, could lead to unhealthy relationships, divorce, and heartbreak.<\/p>\n

And some, despite not being in a relationship, still believe they can coach you into the \u201cperfect\u201d\u00a0relationship with your \u201csoulmate\u201d\u00a0all for the low price of a few minutes (or hours) of your time.<\/p>\n

Contrary to conventional thinking, only your partner is the relationship\u00a0expert who can teach you how to meet their needs.<\/p>\n

Although your friends and family, or even that \u201cknow-it-all\u201d\u00a0child of yours, may have your best interest at heart, they are most likely selling you some hand-me-down, passed around version of relationship advice that starts with something like, \u201cthey say you should\u2026\u201d\u00a0while they can never tell you who \u201cthey\u201d is.<\/p>\n

It may take a village to raise a child, but it should not take a village to shape your relationship.<\/p>\n

Most friends and family mean well with their opinions, but sometimes they can do more harm than good.<\/p>\n

There are times it might be better to listen to their advice while not actually using it.<\/p>\n

Besides, your relationship should never be dependent upon your \u201ccrazy\u201d\u00a0and single\u00a0uncle\u00a0whose dating advice includes rounds of\u00a0tequila shots and playing 21 questions.<\/p>\n

Here are 7 pieces of bad relationship advice you need to ignore for your own good, especially if you want and value a long-lasting, healthy relationship.<\/p>\n

1. Just wait for\u00a0your Prince Charming to sweep you off your feet<\/strong><\/p>\n

Prince Charming sweeping you off your feet is a great notion, but what does this mean?<\/p>\n

Can you forego college and your career now because you know he\u2019s coming?<\/p>\n

And what are the attributes of this guy?<\/p>\n

Is he an adventurous guy with a perfectly chiseled body who has nice teeth, a 7-figure income, and every word out of his mouth is about how great you are?<\/p>\n

Instead of waiting for perfection, search for compatibility.<\/p>\n

Know who you are, whose you are, and your purpose in life before you allow anyone to sweep you off your feet.<\/p>\n

2. Don\u2019t tell your partner everything<\/strong><\/p>\n

Do you have a secret bank account? Are you friends with an ex? Does your mother have access to your personal finances?<\/p>\n

Imagine your partner discovering any of this on their own. Remember half of the truth is a whole lie.\u00a0Period!<\/p>\n

A successful relationship should have no secrets (birthday, anniversary, Christmas,\u00a0and gift surprises are not what I\u2019m talking about).<\/p>\n

In fact, transparency should hopefully be a core value of the relationship.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t withhold any information that violates the trust they may have in you.<\/p>\n

The more you share, the stronger the relationship becomes.<\/p>\n

3. Be prepared to do a lot yourself<\/strong><\/p>\n

Low expectations plague plenty of relationships.<\/p>\n

Do you know that person in a relationship who\u00a0cooks, cleans, bathes the kids, and pays the bills all to make sure it\u2019s done \u201cperfectly\u201d?<\/p>\n

That person suffers from low expectations and will burn out while experiencing bitterness and resentment.<\/p>\n

Furthermore, they will also complain that their spouse isn\u2019t doing anything.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t be that partner. Be prepared to work a lot to make the relationship work, but that is different from expecting to do all the domestic work without help.<\/p>\n

Healthy relationships share the responsibilities. Be assertive and communicate how you\u2019d like to divide up domestic responsibilities.<\/p>\n

This is the conversation to have before you decide to live together.<\/p>\n

4. \u201cA woman is supposed to\u2026\u201d\u00a0or \u201cReal men\u2026\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n

You can thank society for this. And this is the problem with basing your relationship off the larger society.<\/p>\n

Defining the functional roles of both of you based on what others say is a recipe for disaster.<\/p>\n

Just because your mom cooked all of the meals or your dad was the only one to pay the bills doesn\u2019t mean you and your partner have to replicate this.<\/p>\n

Roles are necessary but should never be assumed.<\/p>\n

Discuss the roles and expectations, and embrace a flexible perspective for the benefit of your relationship.<\/p>\n

5. You shouldn\u2019t have to tell them what you need; if they love you, they\u2019ll know<\/strong><\/p>\n

Imagine if your partner could read your every thought like Professor Xavier from the X-Men.<\/p>\n

They knew\u00a0every\u00a0thought you had about them, their\u00a0parents, their hot best friend, or that hot co-worker you have.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s true you wouldn\u2019t have to tell them how to love you, but would they even want to based on all they know?<\/p>\n

Thank God they can\u2019t. Don\u2019t expect them to read your mind.<\/p>\n

It is unrealistic to think they will be able to love you the way you need to be loved without giving them minimal coaching.<\/p>\n

Your needs will evolve over time\u00a0forever\u00a0and\u00a0your spouse will not know without some guidance.<\/p>\n

This includes how to specifically meet your love language, to date night activities, to sex life.<\/p>\n

6. Since your father wasn\u2019t around, you will have issues with men<\/strong><\/p>\n

This isn\u2019t necessarily true. In fact, not all fathers in the home provide the best example, either,\u00a0for various reasons to include, mental health issues, underdeveloped parenting strategies, overworking, etc.<\/p>\n

This statement assumes a few incorrect things:<\/p>\n

Your man will be flawless while you\u2019re the only one with flaws<\/p>\n

Your dad is the only person that can teach you to love (not your faith or mom or your man)<\/p>\n

You are doomed to being single until you have a better relationship with your father.
Bad relationships are formed because of poor values and unequally yoked spirits.<\/p>\n

Though a father figure can model what you want to find in a spouse, life experiences and self-actualization are the true teachers.<\/p>\n

7. You shouldn\u2019t talk about\u00a0serious topics too early; wait until\u00a0you\u2019re engaged or married<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you don\u2019t talk about serious conversations when you are dating, how can you expect to really know who your spouse will be?<\/p>\n

You must discuss finances, kids, disciplining children, vacation ideas, will in-laws ever come live with you, etc.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not saying discuss these topics during your first date but if you are considering marriage, you should have a good idea about their views\u00a0beforesaying \u201cI do.\u201d<\/p>\n

In a nutshell, your friends and family love you. They want you to succeed in your relationship.<\/p>\n

They believe you deserve happiness with a steady partner alongside you.<\/p>\n

Maintain your relationship with them. Love them and value their input.<\/p>\n

But keep in mind, that although the advice may sound great and convincing, it did not originate with you all in mind.<\/p>\n

In other words, instead of receiving advice tailored to you and your partner, you\u2019re receiving advice that was designed with someone else in mind.<\/p>\n

And what worked for them doesn\u2019t mean it will work for you.<\/p>\n

Allow communication with your partner to design the relationship by you two for you two.<\/p>\n

And may you both enjoy the longevity of a healthy relationship.<\/p>\n

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