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My first experience with\u00a0cheating was walking in on my highschool sweetheart kissing another girl at a party.<\/p>\n

My heart immediately sunk as the sense of betrayal set in when he looked back at me uneasily, all at once revealing the gut-twisting feeling he had that he\u2019d exploited my trust.<\/p>\n

As I grew older\u00a0and started having sex\u00a0though, my definition of infidelity evolved to be a little less black-and-white.<\/p>\n

If I\u2019m\u00a0regularly dating and sleeping\u00a0with someone, it\u2019s an unspoken rule\u00a0for me that I won\u2019t be sleeping with anyone else.<\/p>\n

Yet if we\u2019ve just gone on one or two dates, there\u2019s a good chance I\u2019m also doing that with a few other people, and realistically, I get that he is too.<\/p>\n

A\u00a0guy I was chatting with recently on Tinder asked\u00a0to schedule a lunch date with me and I told him I could only accommodate\u00a0a late afternoon get-together.<\/p>\n

When he kept asking as to why I had limited availability that day, I eventually caved and confessed it was because I had another date earlier in the day.<\/p>\n

Despite the fact I\u2019d\u00a0never met this guy and had only one phone call interaction with him at this point, he reacted as though our scheduling of a date meant that, in his mind at least, the relationship had already started.<\/p>\n

In my mind, however, it was just\u00a0the standard phone call I use to screen all my potential dates.<\/p>\n

Being on the flipside of the situation, in the past, I\u2019ve been seeing men for several weeks and getting intimate with them, naively oblivious\u00a0to the fact they\u2019ve been doing the same with other girls.<\/p>\n

These days with the ease of scheduling dates and talking to multiple people at once, the lines of \u201cjust casually dating\u201d and cheating are more blurred than ever before.<\/p>\n

Now I\u2019m often compelled to wonder \u2013\u00a0should\u00a0a second date signal the need for\u00a0a conversation about where we stand?<\/p>\n

If I kiss him at the end of our date and then make out with a different date the following evening, is that \u2018cheating\u2019, or acceptable dating etiquette?<\/p>\n

Or does it depend on the person (or people) I\u2019m seeing, and their individual attitudes toward infidelity?<\/p>\n

According to a recent survey conducted by\u00a0Elite Daily, 30 per cent\u00a0of people believe sending flirty emojis to the opposite sex constitutes as cheating, while\u00a062 per cent felt that just hanging out with someone you fancy on a regular basis is enough to cross the line into infidelity, even if you never actually\u00a0get physical.<\/p>\n

However, relationship expert Marc Evan Katz says rather than being about various specific acts, the concept of \u2018cheating\u2019 is more about the idea of\u00a0intent.<\/p>\n

\u201cI can flirt with a woman at a party. Make her laugh. Charm her. It\u2019s part of having a flirtatious personality.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cBut that\u00a0doesn\u2019t\u00a0veer into cheating unless I\u2019m asking for her phone number with the intent to pursue a sexual relationship with her\u2026 And, of course, there\u2019s a big difference between telling an ex on Facebook that she looks great, and reaching out to her via text to see if she\u2019s up for an illicit tryst.\u201d<\/p>\n

I recently found myself in a situation like this\u00a0when a married acquaintance reached out to me on social media asking for business advice.<\/p>\n

A few messages were exchanged about a lunch catch-up, but when compliments and multiple kiss symbols started to find their way into our conversation thread,\u00a0I started to get the idea he also wanted a bit of afternoon delight with his lunch.<\/p>\n

When I asked him if he wanted sex and was still married, he finally admitted to going through a problem patch with his wife and spilled how he thought\u00a0I was the perfect person to have sex\u00a0with, considering I was single, lived away from his town, and lived alone.<\/p>\n

I was shocked at the excuses he used in order to justify his intentions to tee up a rendezvous behind his wife\u2019s back.<\/p>\n

But I was even more shocked, when I confided in a few friends who revealed they didn\u2019t even deem what he was doing as cheating \u201cjust yet\u201d, because no actual sex had taken place, thanks to my refusal to satisfy his inappropriate request.<\/p>\n

Call me old-fashioned, but I tend to agree with Katz; you don\u2019t have to screw someone to call it cheating.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s such a thing as\u00a0having an emotional affair, and that starts with intent, even if that intent is never brought to fruition.<\/p>\n

Cheating starts when you tell your partner you\u2019re exclusive, but you still keep Tinder on your phone, swiping right for something better to come along.<\/p>\n

But perhaps we feel we can\u00a0blur the line because we\u2019re doing it in private, after all, if nobody saw it, it never happened\u2026right?<\/p>\n

Cheating is such an intensely cerebral and complex act that the reality is, we may never find a neat definition for it.<\/p>\n

Maybe instead we should look to our gut feeling and ask ourselves the same question I saw flashing in my highschool boyfriend\u2019s eyes that day; \u2018Would I be okay with my partner doing this to me?\u2019<\/p>\n

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