{"id":467464,"date":"2018-02-25T15:11:06","date_gmt":"2018-02-25T15:11:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ghana-mma.com\/2018\/02\/25\/26-ghanaian-men-explain-why-they-cheat-on-their-wives\/"},"modified":"2018-02-25T15:11:06","modified_gmt":"2018-02-25T15:11:06","slug":"26-ghanaian-men-explain-why-they-cheat-on-their-wives","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2018\/02\/25\/26-ghanaian-men-explain-why-they-cheat-on-their-wives\/","title":{"rendered":"26 Ghanaian men explain why they cheat on their wives"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><\/p>\n<div id=\"medsection1\">\n<!-- End of html generated by this->header() --><\/p>\n<p class=\"floatLeft\">General News of Sunday, 25 February 2018<\/p>\n<p class=\"floatRight\"><strong>Source: <\/strong>www.ghanaweb<\/p>\n<p>2018-02-25<\/p>\n<div class=\"article-left\">\n<p class=\"article-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/ghanamma.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/02\/69279007.295.jpg\" alt=\"Unhappy Man New\" title=\"Unhappy Man New\" width=\"295\" height=\"165\" \/><span class=\"image_caption\"><span>File Photo<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"noPrint\">\n<div id=\"537626303\" style=\"width:300;height:250;margin:0;padding:0\">\n<p>\t\t  <noscript><iframe loading=\"lazy\" id=\"b2ad7fa7fd\" name=\"b2ad7fa7fd\" src=\"http:\/\/ghanaweb-d.openx.net\/w\/1.0\/afr?auid=537626303&amp;cb=151125813973067\" frameborder=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" width=\"300\" height=\"250\"><a href=\"\/\/ghanaweb-d.openx.net\/w\/1.0\/rc?cs=b2ad7fa7fd&amp;cb=151125813973067\"><\/p>\n<p>\t\t  <img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/ghanamma.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/02\/1519571466_171_ai\" border=\"0\" alt=\"\" \/><\/a><\/iframe><\/noscript><\/p><\/div>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p style=\"clear:right\"> After the publication of the confessions of the 25 women on why they are cheating in their marriages, some 26 men have also confided in David Papa Bondze-Mbir, a relationship coach on Facebook on a condition of anonymity to share their stories.<\/p>\n<p>The men have also explained why though they are happily married but cannot stop cheating on their wives.<\/p>\n<p><b>Read the full confession below<\/b><\/p>\n<p>#TheNakedQueens<\/p>\n<p>1. \u201cDave, this whole cheating thing erh, it\u2019s not like it\u2019s our fault oh\u2026 Charley, the thing feels WRONG, but at the same time, it feels GOOD!\u201d<\/p>\n<p>2. \u201cI\u2019m Nine (9) inches long, thick and wide. She can\u2019t seem to take all of me inside her. And, she was a virgin when we married. We\u2019ve tried everything to enable her enjoy sex with me, but she\u2019s always in pain and bruises. Anytime I want sex, she\u2019d be in tears. I don\u2019t know for how long this marriage to her may last, because I love sex, rough sex, and she\u2019s too \u2018green\u2019 slow and \u2018godly\u2019 for my liking. I want a wife at home, and a \u2018slut\u2019 in the bedroom. She\u2019s too much of a wife for me, and she can\u2019t seem to find her balance. It turns me off. That\u2019s why I\u2019ve been cheating.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>3. \u201cMy wife\u2019s Church was organizing a couples retreat, and one of her Church-member friends, made a pass at me, and slept with me the following week. She is married too. I did feel guilty but I don\u2019t think I slept with her because I wasn\u2019t happy in my marriage\u2026 Nah, far from it. Wife and I are very cool. These things just happen every now and then.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>4. \u201cI suck at confrontation. The relationship wasn\u2019t working. She knew, yet kept hoping things could change. I wasn\u2019t interested anymore, so I cheated my way out of it.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>5. \u201cBeing with my wife now, honestly, feels like she doesn&#8217;t really care about my emotional needs or what&#8217;s happening with me on a daily basis anymore. That\u2019s why I had to find someone else who appeared more interested and excited about me.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>6. \u201cWife is lazy in bed. When it comes to sex, I\u2019m an action movies. She\u2019s into drama. Sexually, we are not compatible.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>7. \u201cI\u2019ve been married for 11 years. I am in love with my wife. I love my family, however, when the opportunity knocks, my zip ought to come down. It\u2019s a man\u2019s thing. Thank you.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>8. \u201cI am 49 years old, and I think I feel like an \u2018old\u2019 man when I am with my wife. The \u2018Me\u2019 I know used to love life. I loved adventure, fun, and the challenge. I am cheating because this side-attraction, knows how to make me feel young. It\u2019s like, I\u2019m at my prime age again \u2013 when I\u2019m with her.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>9. \u201cI love being given blowjobs. I love going down on women, \u2018Anotafrebomski\u2019. My wife wouldn\u2019t give me blowjobs because she finds it disgusting. She would rush me to penetrate her when I would want to go down, take time to explore and play with her \u2018punaana\u2019. I\u2019m cheating because she doesn\u2019t excite me. Outsiders do.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>10. \u201cMy relationship was going rather too fast for me. I wanted to go out and see the world, before saying \u201cForsaking all others\u2026\u201d And I sowed my wild oats, before settling down. A blast from the past showed up at my office \u2013 and I couldn\u2019t just let her go liadat! That was when I started cheating on my wife.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>11. \u201cI cheat because I am not born to be with just one woman. It\u2019s not right!\u201d<\/p>\n<p>12. \u201cA job opportunity came my way after being home for over Three (3) years. I did not really look into the specifics of the job because I was eager to start doing something. The friend who introduced me to the job assured me that I qualified. All they needed was a full photo of me and my CV. I got to the interview, only to find out it was a fertility-kind-of clinic, which had other chain of businesses operating, on the same building, as cover-ups.<\/p>\n<p>We were supposed to be \u2018baby making machines\u2019 for a monthly salary of a few thousands of GHs plus bonuses. I was given a car, a cover-up office, and my main office, which had a bedroom, toilet and bath, a kitchen, and a hall. Customers would just profile us, and then choose whom to \u2018work\u2019 with. A customer may choose to go the natural way, or I wank and cum into a container for it to be inseminated in them. So far, I am fathering over 29 kids. And most of my customers preferred natural intercourse until they took seed.<\/p>\n<p>All my customers are married women whose husbands are, or may be impotent. I\u2019ve also had customers who just preferred a certain gene to father their kids \u2013 instead of their husband\u2019s gene. The woman I am sleeping with currently is my wife\u2019s friend, who paid for our services, and chose me to work on her. She got pregnant, but afterwards, threatened to blackmail me to my wife, if I did not build a sexual relationship with her. We\u2019ve been dating for over Four (4) years now, and my wife nor her husband have a clue. I have fallen in love with her over time, so you could say I am in love with two women. She helped me find a new job.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>13. \u201cMy girlfriend finds me attractive; my wife doesn\u2019t: At least, not anymore.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>14. \u201cSo why do we men really cheat? Well, I am newly married, a month old to be precise. I remember vividly those days when I frequent David Mbir&#8217;s page to glimpse on what marriage was all about. And it was just one word I could use to describe it then: SCARY. So back to the question. I&#8217;ll use those days when I was dating as an example. The lady I dated prior to the woman I married gave me a sour relationship. I almost forgot &#8220;the how&#8221; and &#8220;the feeling&#8221; and &#8220;the sparks&#8221; being in a relationship. It got to a point where I began to see her as my sister hence not attractive.<\/p>\n<p>To paint a better picture; we couldn&#8217;t even last 10 seconds in kissing not to even talk about hugging and squeezing and caressing. When I initiate, she will push me away. It was like we were having Sumo Wrestling in bed just trying to have one-dying-kiss. When I asked her why she does that; she will say to me that she doesn&#8217;t trust me. She said it was because of her past lover who had his way with her by spiking her drink which I felt sorry for her. And so I was in this relationship for Three (3) years hoping things will change, hoping she will be exciting, hoping she will be spontaneous, hoping she will crave for my hotness in her wetness.<\/p>\n<p>I am the kind of guy that get emotional with words. I enjoy naughty conversation. So as a consolation, I frequently used to initiate sex chat with her hoping that could trigger some nerve in her body. But when I start, she would use a detour to come out. Or there were some days that she would gel well into the idea of us to be intimate but when we finally see then she switched back into a Sumo Wrestler. So I cried to my wife (then my friend) and somehow, someway, we met and we enjoyed every bit of it. That sensation chasing a fresh fish in the sea.<\/p>\n<p>That usual constant checking ups. Something was borne out of our friendship into love. And when I finally had the chance to kiss her after we watched a movie at the mall. I felt goosebumps on her arms. My wife was practically trembling with just my kiss. I felt special. My ego boosted. I wanted to have more. I wanted a woman that appreciates my kiss, my touch, my cuddling. Dave, it was then I knew I had wasted three years of my life. So Yes! I cheated but I don&#8217;t regret.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>15. \u201cWeight is an issue for me. If she hadn\u2019t gained so much weight.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>16. \u201cDave, I don\u2019t know if mine is cheating though: I enjoy sexting and flirting online only. There is no harm in that, is there? After all, I don\u2019t meet up with any of these women in person. In fact, to me, it\u2019s just a game.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>17. \u201cI lost my job a few years back. Staying at home doing nothing, applying for jobs and not getting any &#8211; left me depressed and frustrated. I found myself drinking more than usual, and some of these girls at these bars are to die for, Dave. I \u2018died\u2019 for a few.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>18. \u201cI\u2019ve been attracted to the same-sex for as long as I can remember. I married a woma<br \/>\nn to fit the \u2018manly\u2019 role society has created for men. Do I love my wife? No! Do I love my kids? Yes! Am I in love with my gay partner (who is also married with kids)? Yes! I am very much in love with him. We are able to make time to be with each other, many times in a week. And because we are also both friends with the other\u2019s significant other, we are able to be together in each other\u2019s home, when our wives are away. It\u2019s been 25 years of knowing my male partner. I\u2019ve been married to my wife for 12 years.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>19. \u201cSex in the morning, sex in the evening and sex at dawn is what keeps me sane every day. I want it every day, so when I was getting less than I knew I was entitled to, at home, in our forth month of marriage, I had to seek for it out there\u2026 And I got it in abundance.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>20. \u201cSocial media makes me sin. When a fine girl reaches out to me on Facebook, or WhatsApp\u2019s something sexy (photo\/nasty sentences, etc.) I go with the flow. I used to \u2018fight\u2019 it, so I stay faithful to my wife, but Dave, the means to enable me cheat are just there \u2013 in my home. Technology cause \u2018am.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>21. \u201cI cheated because I became too used to my wife. I needed something different, something fresh.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>22. I recently had a baby girl with my friend. We met through an assignment. She is divorced and is leading a very comfortable life. I hit on her because she is matured, single and wanted to have a baby. We hit it out because of our common interest: I have been married for Eight (8) years without children. I wanted kids too, but my wife kept experiencing miscarriages upon miscarriages. We even lost a baby twice. I felt her womb wasn\u2019t receptive, so I tried it with my friend and I got the package in Nine (9) months. Healthy baby girl. The most beautiful little thing I have ever seen. We are already having talks about having a boy next year.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>23. \u201cMy wife wanted me to find a substitute to relieve her off her sexual duties. She began to find making love with me a chore. She was okay with me finding one lady to sleep with till her mojo re-activated. It\u2019s been Eight (8) months now.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>24. \u201cFirst, it was the lump in my wife\u2019s breast. Then, the bloody nipple discharge. The inverted nipple, the dimpling of the breasts skin, the pains she felt every time I accidently touched her breasts during sex. I am attracted to a woman more because of her breasts. So if all of a sudden, your once fully equipped wife, begins to feel a sore in her nipple, her lymph nodes in the neck and armpit look swollen, sex becomes almost impossible. I had to look the other way. Now, her breast has been removed. Nothing on her attracts me anymore. It\u2019s just the truth.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>25. \u201cMy wife pissed me off in the most humiliating way, and she wasn\u2019t willing to apologize. I had an affair to punish her; to hurt her real bad\u2026 And, I made sure she knew about it. Sometimes, women need to submit, and know who the man of the house is.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>26. \u201cDave, even though my wife and I have been through a lot in this 18 years of marriage, with my countless messing ups, having numerous affairs due to the distance (Family is in Kumasi, I work in Accra), I know I love my wife with everything in me. Together with our Three (3) kids may not be perfect, but we are everything as a family. Distance is the main reason I am cheating on her. When I used to work in Kumasi, I was faithful. When I was promoted and transferred to Accra, we all couldn\u2019t move to Accra: Kids were in school there, she had a business to sustain there, etc. So we agreed on the weekends visitations. And it\u2019s unfortunate I can\u2019t go three days without sex.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>From the inbox of David Papa Bondze-Mbir&#8217;s Facebook page.<\/p>\n<p>Thank you<\/p>\n<p><!-- uploaded by: 24 updated by: 24 --><\/p>\n<p><!-- Start of html generated by this->footer() -->\n<\/div>\n<p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<a style=\"display:none\" rel=\"follow\" href=\"http:\/\/megatheme.ir\/\" title=\"\u0642\u0627\u0644\u0628 \u0648\u0631\u062f\u067e\u0631\u0633\">\u0642\u0627\u0644\u0628 \u0648\u0631\u062f\u067e\u0631\u0633<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>General News of Sunday, 25 February 2018 Source: www.ghanaweb 2018-02-25 File Photo After the publication of the confessions of the 25 women on why they are cheating in their marriages, some 26 men have also confided in David Papa Bondze-Mbir, a relationship coach on Facebook on a condition of anonymity to share their stories. 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