{"id":464261,"date":"2018-02-14T11:50:17","date_gmt":"2018-02-14T11:50:17","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ghana-mma.com\/2018\/02\/14\/you-overstepped-touch-me-not-my-family-ace-ankomah-to-dela-goldheart\/"},"modified":"2018-02-14T11:50:17","modified_gmt":"2018-02-14T11:50:17","slug":"you-overstepped-touch-me-not-my-family-ace-ankomah-to-dela-goldheart","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2018\/02\/14\/you-overstepped-touch-me-not-my-family-ace-ankomah-to-dela-goldheart\/","title":{"rendered":"You overstepped; touch me, not my family \u2013 Ace Ankomah to Dela Goldheart"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><\/p>\n<div id=\"medsection1\">\n<!-- End of html generated by this->header() --><\/p>\n<p class=\"floatLeft\">General News of Wednesday, 14 February 2018<\/p>\n<p class=\"floatRight\"><strong>Source: <\/strong>www.ghanaweb.com<\/p>\n<p>2018-02-14<\/p>\n<div class=\"article-left\">\n<p class=\"article-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/ghanamma.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/02\/78417613.295.jpg\" alt=\"Ace Ankomah  21 Minutes\" title=\"Ace Ankomah  21 Minutes\" width=\"295\" height=\"166\" \/><span class=\"play-icon\">play video<\/span><span class=\"image_caption\"><span>Legal Practitioner Ace Kojo Anan Ankomah<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"noPrint\">\n<div id=\"537626303\" style=\"width:300;height:250;margin:0;padding:0\">\n<p>\t\t  <noscript><iframe loading=\"lazy\" id=\"b2ad7fa7fd\" name=\"b2ad7fa7fd\" src=\"http:\/\/ghanaweb-d.openx.net\/w\/1.0\/afr?auid=537626303&amp;cb=151125817929577\" frameborder=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" width=\"300\" height=\"250\"><a href=\"\/\/ghanaweb-d.openx.net\/w\/1.0\/rc?cs=b2ad7fa7fd&amp;cb=151125817929577\"><\/p>\n<p>\t\t  <img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/ghanamma.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/02\/1518609017_826_ai\" border=\"0\" alt=\"\" \/><\/a><\/iframe><\/noscript><\/p><\/div>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p style=\"clear:right\">Following weeks of heated exchanges between Legal Practitioner Ace Ankomah and staunch feminist Amelia Amedela Amemate (Dela Goldheart) on social media, the former has revealed the reason for his fierce \u2018barks\u2019 at the latter after her first response to his post on social media.<\/p>\n<p>Despite his openness to intellectual debate and discussions, he explained that he might have \u2018gone overboard\u2019 when Dela decided to overstep her boundaries and \u2018touch\u2019 his wife in such a denigrating manner.<\/p>\n<p>Ace took to facebook weeks back to offer his friend, Kobby Addo some marriage tips on the responsibility of the husband and wife in a home, a post which obviously ticked Dela who will have \u2018no one\u2019 portray the woman as \u2018a slave\u2019.<\/p>\n<p>In his words; \u201cA woman, even when she works (and every woman should work, if she can) should provide only if she wants to. But she is in charge of everything else that has to do with the home. Yes, it is her kitchen, not mine. That\u2019s why she chose everything in there. My only space in the house is my basement. Everywhere else is hers. I don\u2019t care. Just don\u2019t paint our room pink. That\u2019s all,\u201d portions of his post read.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cDon\u2019t MAKE her do it. PROVIDE the means to do it so that even if she doesn\u2019t do it herself or isn\u2019t there to do it, it still gets done. For example, I expect dinner when I get home; and meals when I\u2019m home. You don\u2019t have to cook it. You don\u2019t have to serve it. Just make sure the system I have provided for produces and delivers the food.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cIn the same vein, I don\u2019t wash, clean, sweep, vacuum, dust, or do any house work. I am \u201cDADDY.\u201d That\u2019s why I live in Ghana and not in the US,\u201d he noted. <\/p>\n<p>Dela Goldheart in a very defensive manner likewise took to social media to express her views. In her response, she said:<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI never thought I will say this about you but I guess career excellence and knowledge in law doesn&#8217;t make you exceptional when it comes to issues affecting women. You grew up in a patriarchal society. The system is designed to favour you. You had no education on gender equality when growing up. But you know what? That can be changed. You have everything your wife has. I know you are smart enough to see that your wife does not use her vagina to cook or order food. And when it comes to strength, you even have more (likely). So if anyone should work and cook, it should be you. And one more thing, the meaning of daddy and mommy has never been static. Those who improve the world understand that change is one of the factors of progress. Think about it.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Speaking to Ghanaweb Editor Kyenkyenhene Boateng on the \u201921 minutes with KKB\u2019 show, the ace lawyer explained that he was outraged at the fact that a simple debate which could have remained between the two persons involved was extended to his family for which reason he called her a \u2018twit\u2019 among other things. <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nFor him, he can be \u2018attacked\u2019 but when his family is \u2018touched\u2019 he will spit venom because he owes them the responsibility of protecting his \u2018own\u2019.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI went overboard. There are times you need to kill a fly with a sledge hammer just to make a statement. It was okay to disagree, my parents taught me the luxury of disagreements, the luxury of thoughts, I\u2019m fine with disagreements, we are different people, what works for me wont work for everybody and so let\u2019s disagree but when it gets personal, even that I can handle, but it went to my wife in a very crude and profane manner from a young lady. You can touch me but not my family, once you get to my family, you\u2019ve gone beyond the pale. There was the need to lay down the marker that I\u2019m open for debate but I\u2019m not open for insults. <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nIf you choose to go that line and I decide, you will get it back in good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, let\u2019s lay down the marker and then let\u2019s stop it, now I\u2019m willing to have the debate.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Touching on his stance as far as the debate of whether or not a woman\u2019s responsibility should include cooking for her husband, Ace Ankomah maintained that he will under no circumstance spend his time cooking and cleaning when he has provided the means for that to be done. He believes a man should have the luxury of choice as far as these things are concerned.<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/content.jwplatform.com\/players\/6LnZyBm8-GtVgZhNx.html\" width=\"600\" height=\"350\" frameborder=\"0\" scrolling=\"auto\" allowfullscreen=\"\" style=\"position:absolute;\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>\u201cI want to live a very simple life. If it works for you, if you feel fulfilled by doing that do it, if the means exists for it to be done, why should I do it myself.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cIt ought to be a choice, not an imposition. My view is that if you are able to provide the means for something to be done don\u2019t do it yourself, spend your time on something else. Why will I pick a broom or a brush to sweep unless I want to, maybe I break a glass, I\u2019ll sweep it myself because I saw where the things went and I can do it, the few times I\u2019ve had to teach the people who work for me, ill sit down in the toilet bowl and clean it in a way that will amaze you, I know how to clean a toilet bowl with a toothbrush, I know where to apply the parazone and everything but I\u2019ve taught you how to do it why will I do it myself, it creates employment so I won\u2019t do it, that\u2019s me, it might not work for you but I\u2019m not criticizing you so don\u2019t jump into my space.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/content.jwplatform.com\/players\/fsOoDMJm-GtVgZhNx.html\" width=\"600\" height=\"350\" frameborder=\"0\" scrolling=\"auto\" allowfullscreen=\"\" style=\"position:absolute;\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p><!-- uploaded by: 48 updated by: 48 --><\/p>\n<p><!-- Start of html generated by this->footer() -->\n<\/div>\n<p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<a style=\"display:none\" rel=\"follow\" href=\"http:\/\/megatheme.ir\/\" title=\"\u0642\u0627\u0644\u0628 \u0648\u0631\u062f\u067e\u0631\u0633\">\u0642\u0627\u0644\u0628 \u0648\u0631\u062f\u067e\u0631\u0633<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>General News of Wednesday, 14 February 2018 Source: www.ghanaweb.com 2018-02-14 play videoLegal Practitioner Ace Kojo Anan Ankomah Following weeks of heated exchanges between Legal Practitioner Ace Ankomah and staunch feminist Amelia Amedela Amemate (Dela Goldheart) on social media, the former has revealed the reason for his fierce \u2018barks\u2019 at the latter after her first response [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":0,"featured_media":463835,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[8],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-464261","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-local-news"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2018\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/464261","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2018\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2018\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2018\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=464261"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2018\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/464261\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2018\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=464261"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2018\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=464261"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2018\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=464261"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}