{"id":461718,"date":"2018-02-05T23:00:19","date_gmt":"2018-02-05T23:00:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ghana-mma.com\/2018\/02\/05\/lifestyle-why-silence-is-great-for-your-relationship\/"},"modified":"2018-02-05T23:00:19","modified_gmt":"2018-02-05T23:00:19","slug":"lifestyle-why-silence-is-great-for-your-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2018\/02\/05\/lifestyle-why-silence-is-great-for-your-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"Lifestyle: Why silence is great for your relationship"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><\/p>\n<div id=\"medsection1\">\n<!-- End of html generated by this->header() --><\/p>\n<p class=\"floatLeft\">Entertainment of Monday,  5 February 2018<\/p>\n<p class=\"floatRight\"><strong>Source: <\/strong>L\u00e9a Rose Emery<\/p>\n<p>2018-02-05<\/p>\n<div class=\"article-left\">\n<p class=\"article-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/ghanamma.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/35834303.295.jpg\" alt=\"Black Couple Fighting\" title=\"Black Couple Fighting\" width=\"295\" height=\"196\" \/><span class=\"image_caption\"><span>File Photo<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"noPrint\">\n<div id=\"537626303\" style=\"width:300;height:250;margin:0;padding:0\">\n<p>\t\t  <noscript><iframe loading=\"lazy\" id=\"b2ad7fa7fd\" name=\"b2ad7fa7fd\" src=\"http:\/\/ghanaweb-d.openx.net\/w\/1.0\/afr?auid=537626303&amp;cb=151125817981905\" frameborder=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" width=\"300\" height=\"250\"><a href=\"\/\/ghanaweb-d.openx.net\/w\/1.0\/rc?cs=b2ad7fa7fd&amp;cb=151125817981905\"><\/p>\n<p>\t\t  <img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/ghanamma.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/02\/1517871619_270_ai\" border=\"0\" alt=\"\" \/><\/a><\/iframe><\/noscript><\/p><\/div>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p style=\"clear:right\"> For some people, silence hanging in the air is a nightmare. They\u2019ll say anything to fill the silence, to make things less awkward, or to cut the tension.<\/p>\n<p>The truth is, silence isn\u2019t always a problem. Sure, in the early days of dating it\u2019s normal to want to keep the conversation going. You\u2019re going to be nervous about a lull or an uncomfortable gap where one of you is desperate to come up with something you have in common to talk about it.<\/p>\n<p>Instead of being scared of running out of things to say or being worried about boring each other, we should embrace silence. You don\u2019t need to be quiet all the time but once in a while, being quiet together is an important part of a healthy relationship. Here\u2019s why you should embrace being quiet with your partner.<\/p>\n<p><b><\/b>It shows a level of ease with each other<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m a nervous chatterer. At a party, when meeting someone new or in a job interview, I\u2019m probably going to talk too much. So when I\u2019m quiet with a partner, I don\u2019t take it as a bad sign.<\/p>\n<p>It doesn\u2019t mean we don\u2019t have anything to talk about or that we\u2019re feeling awkward with each other, it just means that I feel comfortable enough to be quiet with them. Being able to be quiet together is a great sign. You\u2019ve stopped performing for each other and you can just be yourselves together.<\/p>\n<p><b><\/b>You can really relax<\/p>\n<p>Along with showing how comfortable you are as a pair, being able to be quiet together allows you to actually relax. And silence can be rejuvenating. Once you get used to spending time being quiet together, it can become a restful, nourishing part of your relationship.<\/p>\n<p><b><\/b>The silent treatment should never be a bad thing<\/p>\n<p>\u201cThe silent treatment\u201d is often associated with having a fight in a relationship, but the truth is, silence should never be used as a form of punishment.<\/p>\n<p>Fights and disagreements require communication\u2014you should be talking through them, rather than shutting down to prove a point.<\/p>\n<p>You should learn how to associate silence with being an easy way to spend time together\u2014and realise you need to respond to tension with communication. Never let an argument turn into a stalemate.<\/p>\n<p><b><\/b>For an introvert, it\u2019s even more important<\/p>\n<p>For some people, being quiet together isn\u2019t just a nice side effect of being at ease\u2014it\u2019s a must. Introverts not only need time alone to recharge, they also need quiet time.<\/p>\n<p>So if you\u2019re an introvert yourself or you spend a lot of time with an introvert partner, it\u2019s important that as a couple you respect each other\u2019s need for silence.<\/p>\n<p><b><\/b>At some point, you\u2019re going to have to be silent<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s also important to be realistic\u2014if this is your significant other for the long haul, a future partner or a spouse, you\u2019re going to need to spend to learn to spend time alone<\/p>\n<p>You can\u2019t fill every car journey, every train or plane ride chattering away. At some point, you\u2019ll run out of things to say\u2014or just get sick of each other&#8217;s voices. Think of the amount of hours you might spend together over a lifetime&#8230;some silence is inevitable. Learn not to be afraid of it.<\/p>\n<p><b><\/b>It doesn\u2019t have to mean doing nothing<\/p>\n<p>There\u2019s a stigma about silence being associated with being bored or doing nothing\u2014but it doesn\u2019t have to mean sitting around twiddling your thumbs.<\/p>\n<p>Being quiet together can mean being on a journey, but it can also mean both of you reading a book or the paper in the morning. It can mean one of you scrolling the internet while the other doses in bed or one of you working on a craft project while the other plays a game or does some yoga.<\/p>\n<p>Remember that there are a lot of things you can do together in comfortable silence.<\/p>\n<p><!-- uploaded by: 31 updated by: -1 --><\/p>\n<p><!-- Start of html generated by this->footer() -->\n<\/div>\n<p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<a style=\"display:none\" rel=\"follow\" href=\"http:\/\/megatheme.ir\/\" title=\"\u0642\u0627\u0644\u0628 \u0648\u0631\u062f\u067e\u0631\u0633\">\u0642\u0627\u0644\u0628 \u0648\u0631\u062f\u067e\u0631\u0633<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Entertainment of Monday, 5 February 2018 Source: L\u00e9a Rose Emery 2018-02-05 File Photo For some people, silence hanging in the air is a nightmare. They\u2019ll say anything to fill the silence, to make things less awkward, or to cut the tension. The truth is, silence isn\u2019t always a problem. 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