{"id":446011,"date":"2017-12-11T20:30:28","date_gmt":"2017-12-11T20:30:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ghana-mma.com\/2017\/12\/11\/lifestyle-7-reasons-youre-attracted-to-jerks\/"},"modified":"2017-12-11T20:30:28","modified_gmt":"2017-12-11T20:30:28","slug":"lifestyle-7-reasons-youre-attracted-to-jerks","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2017\/12\/11\/lifestyle-7-reasons-youre-attracted-to-jerks\/","title":{"rendered":"Lifestyle: 7 reasons you\u2019re attracted to jerks"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><\/p>\n<div id=\"medsection1\">\n<!-- End of html generated by this->header() --><\/p>\n<p class=\"floatLeft\">Entertainment of Monday, 11 December 2017<\/p>\n<p class=\"floatRight\"><strong>Source: <\/strong>Graphic Showbiz<\/p>\n<p>2017-12-11<\/p>\n<div class=\"article-left\">\n<p class=\"article-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/ghanamma.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/11\/35132276.295.jpg\" alt=\"Black Couple Fighting Couch African American 155259337 Crop\" title=\"Black Couple Fighting Couch African American 155259337 Crop\" width=\"295\" height=\"182\" \/><span class=\"image_caption\"><span>File photo<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"noPrint\">\n<div id=\"537626303\" style=\"width:300;height:250;margin:0;padding:0\">\n<p>\t\t  <noscript><iframe loading=\"lazy\" id=\"b2ad7fa7fd\" name=\"b2ad7fa7fd\" src=\"http:\/\/ghanaweb-d.openx.net\/w\/1.0\/afr?auid=537626303&amp;cb=151125813995117\" frameborder=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" width=\"300\" height=\"250\"><a href=\"\/\/ghanaweb-d.openx.net\/w\/1.0\/rc?cs=b2ad7fa7fd&amp;cb=151125813995117\"><\/p>\n<p>\t\t  <img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/ghanamma.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/1513024228_721_ai\" border=\"0\" alt=\"\" \/><\/a><\/iframe><\/noscript><\/p><\/div>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p style=\"clear:right\"> Your parents taught you not to call people names, like \u201cjerk.\u201d But let\u2019s be honest, some people have earned this label for good reason.<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019ve had bad luck in relationships, you might feel like a jerk magnet. Somehow, they keep finding you. But there\u2019s a more plausible explanation\u2014YOU are attracted to jerks, and YOU are the one responsible for breaking the pattern.<\/p>\n<p>Begin by understanding why you are drawn to them:<\/p>\n<p><b><\/b>\u2022 Your self-respect is shaky.: Some people are far too willing to put up with rude behaviour or mistreatment, and this often comes down to a lack of inner strength.<\/p>\n<p>To be in a healthy relationship, you should fully expect to be treated with dignity and decency. Jerks have a way of sensing lack of self-respect and taking advantage. Respect yourself, and expect it from others.<\/p>\n<p><b><\/b>\u2022 You\u2019re a sucker for good looks.: It\u2019s blatantly apparent that our society is obsessed with appearance. But individuals are also hardwired to favour good-looking people. It\u2019s human nature.<\/p>\n<p>The problem is, external beauty is not a reliable predictor of internal goodness. Initial attraction pulls you into a relationship, and only later do you discover that good looks and charm mask insensitive\u2014or idiotic\u2014behaviour.<\/p>\n<p><b><\/b>\u2022 You\u2019re not listening to your friends and family members.: When you were dating a jerk before, people who cared about you said, \u201cWhy are you with this person?\u201d Listen to those who are trying to protect you and want the best for you. Moreover, invite those close to you to share their opinions, since these people see things that you can\u2019t.<\/p>\n<p><b><\/b>\u2022 You haven\u2019t learned from past experience.: The old saying goes, \u201cFool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me.\u201d Mark Twain put it more succinctly: \u201cThere is nothing to be learned from the second kick of a mule.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>When you\u2019re tempted to date another mule (a.k.a jackass), think long and hard about previous relationships\u2014all the headaches and heartaches. Learn from those experiences so you can avoid more of them.<\/p>\n<p><b><\/b>\u2022 You\u2019re too willing to compromise.: Experts tell us the importance of compromise to ensure cooperation and harmony within a relationship. But compromising about weekend plans or work schedules does NOT mean compromising about a person\u2019s basic behaviour.<\/p>\n<p>Nearly all of us have things like \u201chonesty, respect, and loyalty\u201don our must-have list. These represent a person\u2019s fundamental qualities\u2014and should not be compromised on.<\/p>\n<p><b><\/b>\u2022 You hate being alone.: Some people loathe the thought of being single the rest of their lives. Others can\u2019t stand spending another Friday night in front of the TV alone. This is what drives them to put up with rude or irresponsible treatment.<\/p>\n<p>The thinking goes that, \u201cA not-so-great partner is better than none at all.\u201d Not true. Expand your social network, date better prospects, and dump the loser so you can find a lover.<\/p>\n<p><b><\/b>\u2022 You think you can transform a jerk into a decent human being.: Maybe you\u2019re a starry-eyed romantic. Maybe you\u2019re codependent and need someone to \u201cfix.\u201d Or maybe you\u2019re just overly optimistic. It\u2019s always possible for someone to become better and nicer, but it\u2019s not likely if that person isn\u2019t even aware of his\/her need to change. It\u2019s the jerk\u2019s responsibility to overcome his or her jerkiness\u2014not yours.<\/p>\n<p>Realise you deserve better, and then go find it.<\/p>\n<p><!-- uploaded by: 31 updated by: 31 --><\/p>\n<p><!-- Start of html generated by this->footer() -->\n<\/div>\n<p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<a style=\"display:none\" rel=\"follow\" href=\"http:\/\/megatheme.ir\/\" title=\"\u0642\u0627\u0644\u0628 \u0648\u0631\u062f\u067e\u0631\u0633\">\u0642\u0627\u0644\u0628 \u0648\u0631\u062f\u067e\u0631\u0633<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Entertainment of Monday, 11 December 2017 Source: Graphic Showbiz 2017-12-11 File photo Your parents taught you not to call people names, like \u201cjerk.\u201d But let\u2019s be honest, some people have earned this label for good reason. If you\u2019ve had bad luck in relationships, you might feel like a jerk magnet. Somehow, they keep finding you. 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