One of the best things about being in a loving, committed relationship is the act of making love<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n It\u2019s not a big secret: There is a difference between making love and having sex. That said, if you haven\u2019t experienced it for yourself, you may not be entirely sure what exactly those differences are. Or you may just not be sure if what you are experiencing is making love or having sex. Sometimes, the line can get a little blurry.<\/p>\n
One of the best things about being in a loving, committed relationship is the act of making love, as much and as often as possible! Sure, it\u2019s fun to just get down and dirty and do some nasty thing with your partner, but making love, with all the emotion and romance that entails, is one of the best feelings in the world. And it makes you feel more connected to your partner than almost anything else.<\/p>\n
There is room for both f*cking and making love. If you have a partner that you can\u2019t f*ck and only make love to, or vice versa, you\u2019ve got the wrong partner.<\/p>\n
A hearty and fulfilling sex life has a little of both, and most of the time, couples go through stages in which they\u2019re \u201cmaking love\u201d all the time or \u201cf*cking\u201d all the time. It\u2019s simply part of the life cycle of the relationship.<\/p>\n
But in the early stages of the relationship, it\u2019s when the cycle happens rapidly. Sometimes, if you\u2019re with a new partner and wondering where it\u2019s going, you\u2019ll start to analyze the sex. Is it just banging, or is he connecting with you?<\/p>\n
Bottom line: Is it f*cking or making love? Here are the differences.<\/p>\n
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When you\u2019re making love, your vulnerability levels are high.<\/b><\/p>\n
When you\u2019re making love, the vulnerability level is high. People start to share words and feelings that they didn\u2019t before. Don\u2019t be surprised if her eyes, or yours, well up a little. This is when both of you let down your guard. This is when risk and reward come into play.<\/p>\n
Do you tell him you love him? Do you tell her you love her? Are you becoming so close that it\u2019s difficult and scary? Are you becoming so close that it\u2019s hard to imagine any other moments happening without him or her? This is making love.<\/p>\n
When you\u2019re f*cking, the vulnerabilities are there, too\u2026 it\u2019s just different.<\/b><\/p>\n
On the flip side, when you\u2019re f*cking, the vulnerabilities lie in the two of you sharing some freaky stuff that might make the other person turned off. If your freak flag doesn\u2019t fly with this new partner\u2019s, the party shuts down. The vulnerabilities lie in: Is the sex going to suck? Are we going to lose chemistry? If I let my sexual needs show, will they be received well, or not?<\/p>\n
When you\u2019re making love the risk comes in: Are we both feeling the same way? Are we both seeking the same relationship goal? Either way, the vulnerabilities exist on both sides.<\/p>\n
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When you\u2019re making love, you\u2019re all you.<\/b><\/p>\n
When you\u2019re making love, you become your most genuine and raw self, but it\u2019s a core part of you that exists every day. That love. That feeling. If you\u2019re into hardcore S&M and like to be dominated, it doesn\u2019t mean you\u2019re like this at work or with friends; in fact, it\u2019s typically the opposite.<\/p>\n
When you\u2019re f*cking, you can become someone new.<\/b><\/p>\n
You don\u2019t have to be the person you are in everyday life. You can be a sadist, a masochist, a cross-dresser or anything your sexual heart desires. F*cking is a space in which partners show different sides of themselves that they may never show in public. This is where sexual taste brings out hidden personality aspects.<\/p>\n
When you\u2019re making love, saying goodbye is always at stake.<\/b><\/p>\n
Love isn\u2019t always forever. Love isn\u2019t always requited. When you make love, you\u2019re feeling deep within yourself \u2014 and I\u2019m not talking about the vagina, but in your heart and soul. A place that can only be touched by those you let inside. So when you make love with someone, there\u2019s a chance that they might not feel that a \u201cgoodbye\u201d could come, will come, or is coming.<\/p>\n
There\u2019s a risk involved in getting that close. When you f*ck, there\u2019s a freedom there that doesn\u2019t exist with all that \u201cmaking love\u201d stuff.<\/p>\n
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When you\u2019re f*cking, you don\u2019t need to say goodbye.<\/b><\/p>\n
You can f*ck someone long, good and hard, and if you never see the person again life goes on. You\u2019re able to move on just fine because you weren\u2019t necessarily looking to be committed to this person.<\/p>\n
When you\u2019re making love, being nice is essential.<\/b><\/p>\n
It better be nice and sweet when you\u2019re making love to someone, otherwise, you\u2019re not exactly making love.<\/p>\n
But when you\u2019re f*cking, it doesn\u2019t need to be tender or nice.<\/b><\/p>\n
If you\u2019re f*cking, it doesn\u2019t have to be super-sweet and nice. You can even be mean to each other. You can be raunchy and dirty. The filthiest part of you that you want no one to see, except for the person you\u2019re f*cking.<\/p>\n
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The Motivation Is Different<\/b><\/p>\n
When you\u2019re having sex, your primary motivation is (let\u2019s be real) to get off. Sure, you usually want to get your hands on some hot piece of human, and you may even like to play in different ways, but at the end of the day, you want to have an orgasm.<\/p>\n
When making love, it\u2019s not that getting off isn\u2019t important, too (because it\u2019s always great, obviously), but the primary motivation is to connect on an emotional level with your partner. Making love means you delight in exploring your partner\u2019s body and mind and heart, not just because you are trying to have an orgasm, but because you are trying to share a seriously intimate connection with them.<\/p>\n
Making love might take hours, and you may even decide the orgasm wasn\u2019t your goal. It\u2019s all about deepening your connection and growing your love.<\/p>\n
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The Communication Is Different<\/b><\/p>\n
When you\u2019re having sex, it\u2019s not uncommon for some dirty words to enter the vocabulary. Even if you aren\u2019t a fan of sexy talk, the communication during sex is often mostly about who is about to have an orgasm, when, how hard, etc.<\/p>\n
When you\u2019re making love, though, this all changes. It\u2019s not that dirty talk still isn\u2019t possible in making love, it\u2019s more that it is held up by loving, emotional words. Making love often gives couples the ability to be very open with each other, and gives them the perfect space for talking about how much they love each other.<\/p>\n
Although it may sound weird, making love is one of my favorite times to connect with my husband verbally, too. There\u2019s just something about the atmosphere that makes it feel perfect to open up with our words.<\/p>\n
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One of the best things about being in a loving, committed relationship is the act of making love<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n