Entertainment of Sunday, 22 January 2017
Source: independent
2017-01-22
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Experts in the field say there is no need to shy away from dating through relationship sites – as long as precautions are taken. Keep chats restricted to the website or app.
It’s really important to keep all dialogue restricted to the messaging services on the website. If you keep conversations strictly on the site, scammers are unlikely to target you, because they know the dating site will detect their behaviour.
Block anyone suspicious
On the dating site, users’ behaviour can be monitored, so if someone becomes abusive or inappropriate, the site can respond accordingly. You also have the ability to block someone on a dating site messaging system.
Take time to get to know someone before meeting
When you meet someone, you can quickly feel like you know them really well, because it’s often easier to connect in writing and to read more into the written word than the spoken word. This can mean you rush into things, and relationships may move quicker than you expect.
Always bear in mind that the other person is a stranger. Take your time to really get to know someone, and ensure he or she is who they say they are.
Ask a friend for advice and their opinion
If you even get a gut feeling that something is not quite right, ask a friend for advice and their opinion. Sometimes, our mind can trick us into thinking we’ve met the perfect match when in fact we are being conned by a scam-artist.
Always meet in a public place
Anyone you meet online is a stranger, and you need to remember that, even if you’re on a second or third date.
Communicate with a friend
Let someone else know where you are, and check back in with that person at the end of the date.
Avoid drinking too much on a first date.
While Dutch courage can be enticing, you don’t want to lower your inhibitions, and end up doing something you regret.
Don’t go home with them on your first date
Even if you’re getting on really well with your date, don’t go home with him or her on the first night. And remember that bringing someone home is no safer than going to someone else’s house. You’re still inviting a stranger into your home.
Don’t be afraid to just get up and leave
Online dating can be a great way to meet people you would never had chance to meet otherwise, but there are nasty people in the world, and online dating is just one of many ways you may come across those nasty people.
Always keep your wits about you, and if you ever feel uncomfortable, you should simply leave. Your safety is of paramount importance.
