{"id":332308,"date":"2016-12-06T14:15:45","date_gmt":"2016-12-06T14:15:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/ghana-mma.com\/2016\/12\/06\/lifestyle-my-husband-only-wants-sex-four-times-a-year-what-do-i-do\/"},"modified":"2016-12-06T14:15:45","modified_gmt":"2016-12-06T14:15:45","slug":"lifestyle-my-husband-only-wants-sex-four-times-a-year-what-do-i-do","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2016\/12\/06\/lifestyle-my-husband-only-wants-sex-four-times-a-year-what-do-i-do\/","title":{"rendered":"Lifestyle: My husband only wants sex four times a year \u2013 what do I do?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><\/p>\n<div id=\"medsection1\">\n<!-- End of html generated by this->header() --><\/p>\n<p class=\"floatLeft\">Entertainment of Tuesday,  6 December 2016<\/p>\n<p class=\"floatRight\"><strong>Source: <\/strong>Theguardian.com<\/p>\n<p>2016-12-06<\/p>\n<div class=\"article-left\">\n<p class=\"article-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/ghanamma.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/96873141.295.jpg\" alt=\"Couple Respect\" title=\"Couple Respect\" width=\"295\" height=\"197\" \/><span class=\"image_caption\"><span>File Photo<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<p style=\"clear:right\"> Over our 17 years together, I have always thought my husband and I had different sex drives (mine higher than his), but over the past 10 years he has rarely wanted sex, believing that four times a year is normal.<\/p>\n<p>He has finally begun to confront his issues and \u2013 after having something of a breakdown at work \u2013 has been diagnosed with social anxiety disorder.<\/p>\n<p>He now tells me he has never felt \u201c100%\u201d about our sex life and can\u2019t just \u201cconjure up the feelings\u201d.<\/p>\n<p>He also says he has a fear of intimacy. Am I a fool to think he could ever get past these feelings through therapy, which he is starting, or should I just give up on a fulfilling sex life?<\/p>\n<p>Expert&#8217;s response<\/p>\n<p>Try not to take his confessions personally. His low libido may well be found to have medical or psychological causes, and a thorough investigation and treatment could lead to considerable improvement.<\/p>\n<p>The therapeutic process can be healing and lead to vast improvements in mental, sexual and relationship health. Support him in this process as best you can and, if possible, seek your own help and\/or join him in couples\u2019 therapy.<\/p>\n<p>It is terribly painful to feel needy and to lose hope, and you deserve to have your needs met. In the meantime, work on resolving the underlying resentment you have.<\/p>\n<p>It will help to understand his struggle with clinical anxiety and how that affects his sexual desire and arousal.<\/p>\n<p><!-- uploaded by: 24 updated by: -1 --><\/p>\n<p><!-- Start of html generated by this->footer() -->\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Entertainment of Tuesday, 6 December 2016 Source: Theguardian.com 2016-12-06 File Photo Over our 17 years together, I have always thought my husband and I had different sex drives (mine higher than his), but over the past 10 years he has rarely wanted sex, believing that four times a year is normal. 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