Entertainment of Sunday, 14 February 2016
New Year’s resolutions might be more popular than Valentine’s Day ones. We typically focus on the day we create resolutions and set goals, rather than on the types of resolutions we make.
Valentine’s Day is a fantastic opportunity to cherish your love and think about the ways to make your relationship stronger and happier. Before both of you will indulge in your favorite wine and sink your teeth into delicious heart-shaped desserts, make sure you make these Valentine’s Day resolutions:
1. Focus on your union
No comparing. No complaining. No gossiping. When you discuss important issues, focus on your union only. It does not matter what happened in your friend’s relationship or how other couples solve their problems. The two of you are in charge of your happiness. Instead of spending 2 hours discussing someone else’s love, plan some romantic activities or simply enjoy each other’s company in silence.
2. Never speak when you feel angry
If one of you feels angry, it is best to take a little break. It is always easier to change your actions, but it is impossible to change the words you utter. Words have a strong power. They can either hurt you or make you happy. Making a never-speak-when-you-feel-angry resolution will prevent tons of pointless fights, thus strengthening your union.
3. Take turns planning dates and activities
Who said men should always take the initiative? Who said women have brilliant imagination and ability to come up with fun activities for two? Nobody. Both of you can create a romantic picnic or dinner, so take turn planning your activities. You can make it a kind of competition and consider some little prizes.
4. Learn the art of fighting
All couples fight. However, it is the way they fight that determines if their relationship will be long-lasting. Mastering the art of fighting is a challenge that you and your partner have to take for the sake of your love. Respect, understanding, and compromise are the keys of healthy fighting. Watch your word use and avoid saying offensive things no matter how angry you are.
5. Forgive each other
There is no better time than Valentine’s Day to forgive each other and make a new resolution that will bring peace and joy into your relationship. You do not want to spend too much time dwelling on your partner’s mistakes, and your partner does not want the entire world to know how cruel you can be when you are angry. If you have been together for years, you already know each other’s flaws so skip them. Smile and laugh rather than frown and grieve.
6. Keep positive people around you
If someone is trying to ruin your relationship, drop them immediately. Be it your sister or your partner’s brother, if they breed strife, get them out of your life and you will see how happier you and your significant other will become. Oftentimes, people that we know and love ruin our happiness whether intentionally or not. You and your partner are better off together than with negative people.
7. Spend more quality time together
No smartphones. No laptops. Only you and your beloved one. Couples spend too much time in front of the screens. Spending quality time together means focusing on each other. Think of those times when people had no idea what television or internet was. They talked about love. They wrote love poems and love letters. They looked at each other’s eyes.
Watch a few episodes of The Magnificent Century (be careful, this series is so interesting that you may end up watching it all day long) to know how lovers expressed their feelings and love in 1500s. Borrow a few ideas and habits from this series and incorporate them into your relationship.
Valentine’s Day is just another reason to remind ourselves of one of the most beautiful feelings in the world – love. Relationship resolutions have many positive benefits so why not make some of them on the day when we celebrate love? Have you and your partner ever made Valentine’s resolutions or any other relationship resolutions.