4 Types Of Men You’ll Meet While Dating And What To Do With Each One

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I’ve made it my mission to help you never waste your time again because you’ve invested your heart, energy, time and money into a relationship that isn’t going to result in marriage. But to do that, I have to share some truths that make tick you off.

One of the biggest reasons why you waste time with the wrong men is because you chose him. Plain and simple. The good news is, you can learn to make different choices and it all starts with understanding how men think, talk and behave when it comes to commitment.

Let me share with you the profiles of 4 types of men you’ll meet while dating, so that you’ll instantly know whether or not you should invest your time into a relationship.

1. The Player

You may think you know how to spot The Player, but he comes in all shapes and sizes. Even the smartest sister can get fooled by him unless you know these secrets.

This man takes your breath away! He may start out like a perfect gentleman who says and does all the right things. He’ll make you feel like he’s sincere and will assure you he’ll never hurt you. The keyword here is “feel.” This guy knows how to appeal to your emotions and when you’re with him, the chemistry is off the charts!

The problem is he’s usually focused on the moment. If he’s not with you, he’s not thinking about you. When he wants you, he’ll send you a midnight text asking “what r u doing.” He leaves you feeling lots of self-doubt and questioning what his true feelings are when you two are apart.

The Player may desire you, but he doesn’t value you, your body, your time, or anything else you give him.

With The Player, you need to adopt this phrase: Actions speak and talk is cheap!

2. The Ghost

The Ghost is a lot different from The Player. You feel really comfortable around him. Your conversations are amazing because you share so many interests. He wants the same things out of life that you do, and he’s really open with you about his feelings, thoughts and goals.

You start dating for a few months and you think everything is going well!

However, something in your gut tells you he’s acting a little funny, maybe even pulling away from you, but you don’t speak up because you don’t want him to think you’re pressuring him about where the relationship is headed.

Then…POOF! He just disappears.

His disappearing act may have started gradually. He stopped responding to your good night text messages. Then you noticed he never initiates phone calls anymore. You decide that you’re not going to chase a man, so you wait until he calls you. But he never does.

The first thing you should know about The Ghost is that, he probably has avoidance issues. He doesn’t like conflict, so instead of talking to you about what he’s feeling, he just hopes you get the hint and leaves. Don’t waste your time trying to figure out why he left! When you do, you internalize this man’s issues and make them your own! It’s not your fault he disappeared. There’s nothing wrong with you!

The second thing you should know about The Ghost is that he was giving you warning signs, but you didn’t trust your instincts. You need to learn how to speak up in a relationship, in a powerful and authentic way.

Tell a man what you need in a relationship (just do it in a loving way). And when you have concerns, don’t suppress them; Express them!

3. Mr. Right Now

This guy is everything you’ve prayed for! He says things like, “I could see myself committing to you,” and may even have serious talks about marriage with you early on in the relationship.

He makes you feel like he wants a future with you, but his actions don’t always match his words. Maybe he has to reschedule a lot of dates at the last minute. Or maybe he talks about the future using “fantasy” language. He never gives you any concrete plans. Everything is always “one day we’ll…”

When you start to question where the relationship is going, he gets a little snappy. Maybe he’ll say things like, “I don’t want to say for sure because my word is bond and I don’t want to promise something I can’t stick to.” Or he’ll turn it around on you and say, “I’m with you, aren’t I? Isn’t that enough? If I didn’t want to be here, you would know.”

If the man you’re dating can’t give you a straight answer about his feelings for you, or if he’s getting vague about commitment, he’s probably Mr. Right Now. He’s the kind of man you could date for 3, 5, 10 or even 20 years and NEVER get the marriage you desire.

You’ll need to communicate often with him, share what your relationship requirements are and give him a chance to step up or step out!

4. Mr. Right

You’ll know you’ve met Mr. Right because his actions are consistent with his words. Even if he’s unsure about a future with you, he’ll be open and honest with you about it. Why? Because he cares about your needs and values you as a woman.

If he does something that hurts you, he’ll want to know about it so he can make it right. He also wants to know how to please you and appreciates when you tell him the truth in love. And finally, you know Mr. Right is getting serious about you when he’s constantly talks about a future with you, whether that’s a future date or a future marriage.

He may not look like everything you imagined, but he will treat you like the Queen you are!

Sisters, keep your eyes and ears open while you’re dating so that you don’t invest your time with the wrong man!

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