Marriage is a precious gift that couples sometimes take for granted. Did you know God wants your marriage to be healthy and wants you to prosper as a couple? This is difficult to do when we get in the way of our own happiness. We should be suitable helpers to our spouse and be reminded of what God says in Genesis 2:24 “That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.”
The one flesh concept, sometimes gets lost in most marriages. We complain and look for what’s not working, which prevents our marriages from blossoming. It’s so easy to become complacent and do just enough to get by. The reality is, that isn’t enough. If we desire the best out of our marriage, we have to give it our personal best.
It will require effort and knowing the areas needing the most attention. Providing our marriage with an opportunity at joy and longevity will require that we remove our selfishness and eliminate other behaviors that are damaging to our relationship. Marriage success won’t arrive by chance. You’ll have to take some very specific actions while avoiding those that don’t serve your union.
Here are 5 ways you may be blocking your marriage blessings and not even realize it.
By being stubborn
Thinking it’s your way or no way simply doesn’t work in a partnership. There are two of you for a reason. We must be willing to listen and be open to suggestion and correction if we want a union that reflects love and commitment.
Not being willing to forgive
Not being willing to forgive will also block your marriage blessings. Releasing the bitterness by discussing what’s bothering you, not holding on to it, and creating solutions will assist you in forgiveness. We have to remember what love actually is and what it’s intended to do for us. It is clearly stated in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
By not taking ownership
We aren’t perfect. The sooner we acknowledge that, the better. We make mistakes that need correcting all the time. Somehow we find it easier to pinpoint those of our spouse, than to own our own. We have to look in the mirror and face the good, the bad and the ugly of who we are, and make corrections.
Not being completely honest
Not being completely honest about needing God for your marriage will cause you to struggle unnecessarily. Remember your vows and the promises you made before God, regarding your marriage? When you hit rough patches in your relationship, trust God to see you through.
By not giving 100%
By not giving 100% you cheat yourself and your marriage. You deserve the best that life has to offer and so does your spouse. Make sacrifices and be all in, in your marriage. 100% from both partners is the secret to love and happiness. You block your blessing when you half do it. How can your relationship be blessed with more when you haven’t already been a good steward of what you have?
Love can be challenging, but also amazing, if we step out of the way and allow our marriage blessings to flow.