Don’t freak out! We’re here to translate.
Few phrases are more easily misinterpreted than when men say, “We should hang out sometime.” Such a simple statement only summons countless questions. First, is it an invitation or a polite suggestion? What does he mean by “hang out?” Does he mean hang out as pals or as something more? What was that tone of voice? What does he want us to do together?
While it’s a little awkward to ask someone directly whether or not we were just asked on a date, it’s even more embarrassing to misunderstand someone’s intentions when you’re out on the date (or non-date) itself.
Heck, we’d be lying if we said we didn’t learn how to differentiate between a date and a hangout the hard way on a couple of occasions. But fear not, we’ve got a few pointers that may save you the hassle of miscommunication.
It’s a date if…
He asks using the phrase, “Have dinner with me.”
He brings you flowers.
He takes you somewhere fancy, dimly lit, quaint or with live piano music.
He offers to pay and refuses your attempts to go half-and-half.
He goes out of his way to walk or drive you home. (Bonus points if he texts you goodnight or even good morning to ask if you slept well.)
He’s planned out the whole evening.
He tries to feed you.
He prolongs the night for as long as possible.
He makes at least one attempt at physical affection. We’re not even talking about a full-blown kiss here—hair-touching, arms across your shoulders, and elbow-guiding are all fair game.
It’s not a date if:
He asks if you want to “tag along” to some event he would have attended regardless.
He asks using the phrase “hang out” or “grab food,” especially if he brings it up at the last second.
He doesn’t offer to pay.
He talks about another love interest.
During dinner, he asks if you want to meet up with his friends afterward.
He keeps a foot of distance between you at all times.
He calls you “buddy” or “pal.” (Hello, friend zone!)
You eat at a fast-food joint.