Hate to break it to you, ladies, but just because someone uses the words, “I love you,” doesn’t mean he actually means them. If this article comes as a slap in the face, I hope you can ditch whomever you’re seeing, and find someone else who will love you the way every woman deserves to be loved.
Here are 8 ways you can decide if his kisses actually mean, “I love you.”
1. You don’t have to justify his behavior
If you feel like you are constantly defending his actions, then you might want to reconsider your relationship. If he is treating you right, then you won’t have to defend his stupid mistakes. Your friends and family will support the relationship because they see how well he treats you.
2. He is forgiving
Both of you are going to make mistakes. Chances are you are going to get angry over something really stupid when you’re on your period and possibly blow up for no reason. But if he is willing to forgive you for your weaknesses and dumb moves, then he is worth fighting for. He doesn’t throw them in your face, and he lets things go.
3. If he says he’ll do something, he actually does it
If he says he is going to call you at 10, he calls you at 10. If he promises that he’ll take you out on Friday, he takes you out on Friday. If he stays true to his word, and you can trust that he’ll follow through, he is a keeper.
4. He is the ultimate protector
At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter who is right or wrong, what matters to him is how you feel. You can still disagree, but he will never, ever say anything that is verbally abusive or unkind. He is quick to apologize for his mistakes and protects your feelings like they are his own.
5. He isn’t dating other people
If he’s kissing other girls the same time he’s kissing you, then he isn’t in love with you. Run away from that relationship as fast as you can. Love is about commitment. No excuses. If he isn’t willing to say you’re his, then he isn’t worth the time. If he is running around behind your back now, even slapping a ring on it isn’t going to stop him from running around later.
6. He likes you even when you throw up all over him
When you are sick, throwing up and haven’t showered in a while, what does he do? Does he say you’re beautiful, stay by your side and clean out your barf bowl? Or does he run away screaming? True love comes in sickness, not just in health.
7. He makes you a priority
He shows up for the important moments in your life — even the dumb ones. If he knows your best friend’s birthday party is important to you, then he’ll make sure he’s there. If he texts you in the morning to wish you luck on your big presentation, or gives up a boy’s night to comfort you after a bad day, then he is making his priorities known. At the end of the day, he is willing to put you first.
8. He plans his future with you in mind
If he truly loves you, then ultimately, he will want to merge lives with you. That means making plans together. If he talks about the future with you in it, then that’s a pretty good sign that he isn’t looking for a one-night-stand but a lasting, meaningful relationship.
Many people say that a good man is hard to find. (And they’re right.) But it’s worth the wait. You will discover his worth in the choices he makes and the little things he does for you each day. Then you will know you have found someone pretty special — kissably special — in every way.