In order to develop your own “studied craziness,” try this five-step approach:
1. Accept your crazy.
Once you can allow yourself the freedom of knowing that you are a crazy chick — and so are your girlfriends, your daughters and your moms — you can finally stop beating yourself up for it.
If more of us women start to recognize this about ourselves, we can stop judging ourselves and each other so harshly.
2. Embrace your crazy.
The truth is, women’s unique brand of crazy is quite magical. As long it doesn’t cross the line into pathology, feminine craziness is actually quite attractive to most men, because it is part of what makes women so different from themselves and a mystery to be uncovered.
So, know and admit that you are crazy, and also be prepared to check your behavior and apologize if you take it too far.
3. Monitor your crazy.
Yes, I am telling you to let your freak flag fly, but not so wildly that you get haphazardly swept into the wind. You do not get to use your crazy as an excuse to behave badly. You do not get to use your crazy as a way to avoid responsibility. No one else gets to do that to you either.
4. Harness your crazy.
Where in your life is your crazy serving you, and where in your life is it holding you back? I am proposing that we develop a “studied craziness.”
Be aware of your triggers and be aware of any tendencies you have to take it too far; this way, you can make a concerted effort not to let your emotional shifts take yourself or those you care about to a place that will be damaging in any way.
5. Share your crazy … with care.
One of the greatest things about finding peace with your own particular brand of crazy is that you can gain much better insight into your compatibility with others.
Your best friend is crazy, but her craziness and yours likely match up and complement each other’s. If you have a friend whose level or expression of crazy brings you to a place where you find yourself dreading spending time together, you don’t have to judge her as any more crazy than you are. Just understand that you are not a match and move on.