Rather than allowing your energy to subside, you can allow your lovemaking to change and grow, deepening as your partnership does. Couples who develop a”s*xual repertoire which includes a variety of s*xual habits, attitudes and options report feeling more satisfaction and freedom to express their love with enough variety that they never get bored. These suggestions will help you create a variety of experiences together.
Quickies: These are ways you have s*x when you don’t really have time for a full, leisurely romantic evening: One of you giving oral s*x before you leave for work, petting to climax in the car at a drive-in movie, using vibrators to have orgasms without a lot of foreplay late at night, taking a nap and having a “quickie” before rushing off to a party.
Sneaky s*x: This has the added excitement of “forbidden fruit” — having silent s*x behind locked doors while the children are watching TV, sneaking lovemaking in your childhood bedroom while visiting your parents, visiting your partner at work and having quickie s*x on the couch in a locked office.
Romantic s*x: This is the full-blown variety: candlelight, dinner, quiet talking, dressing up, perhaps a lovely hotel room, or a romantic dinner for two when you have time alone at home. Especially good for anniversaries, Valentine’s Day, or anytime your relationship needs a boost.
New Couple s*x: Recreate a scene from your dating days, as closely as possible — the time you met at church and couldn’t wait to get home and make love, the flowers you used to bring home as a surprise, or saying all the silly, wildly in-love things you said then.
Making-up s*x: After you’ve had an argument or a struggle, and forgiven each other, lovemaking can be extra tender and memorable.
Comforting s*x: When one of you is sad or stressed, the other is especially caring and soothing, doing all your favorite things to comfort and relax you.
Relaxing s*x: This is the kind to do on a weekend morning, when you have no obligations, and can laze around, have breakfast in bed, and make love for as long as you want; no pressure, no hurry and no demands on each other.
Reassuring s*x This is affection and intimacy intended to reassure a partner who is temporarily insecure, or designed to reaffirm your mutual love and commitment to each other. It is often accompanied by many verbal declarations of love and explaining again why you are so important to each other.
Fantasy s*x: Act out all the silly, forbidden or exciting fantasies — nurse and patient, two little children “playing house”, master or dominatrix and slave, stripper and customer, extraterrestrial alien and abductee, famous movie star and adoring fan, your two favorite characters from a soap opera, novel or movie, or anything else you can imagine. This is a great time for costumes, masks, s*xual toys, leather outfits, or whatever enhancements you enjoy.