{"id":187900,"date":"2014-05-23T07:31:20","date_gmt":"2014-05-23T07:31:20","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/ghana-mma.com\/im-21-and-find-it-hard-to-choose-among-my-three-suitors-advice-needed\/"},"modified":"2014-05-23T07:31:20","modified_gmt":"2014-05-23T07:31:20","slug":"im-21-and-find-it-hard-to-choose-among-my-three-suitors-advice-needed","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2014\/05\/23\/im-21-and-find-it-hard-to-choose-among-my-three-suitors-advice-needed\/","title":{"rendered":"I\u2019m 21 And Find It Hard To Choose Among My Three Suitors [Advice Needed]"},"content":{"rendered":"

About a year ago, I ended my long-term relationship (we were together for four years) because I felt it was getting monotonous. Besides, I\u2019m only 21 now, and I\u2019ve been dating this guy since I was 16! Finally, I realized I needed some freedom and experience with other people.<\/p>\n

I know I left the boy heartbroken, but, at the time, this looked like the least painful decision.<\/p>\n

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Since then, I\u2019ve met and sort of been friendly (and slept with) with two guys. The first one has a girlfriend, but was already on the verge of breaking up with her when we met. The s*x is amazing. He is a really nice guy, gentle, caring, smart, with a job. However, he is taking too long to leave his girlfriend, and I\u2019ve started to suspect he will eventually decide to stay with her.<\/p>\n

The second guy is older than me by almost a decade, rather well-doing and confident, single, never married. A dream come true, one would think, but for his short temper. He hit me several times and constantly abuses me verbally. This makes me doubt I want something steady with him, but\u2026 he makes up for every such incident in a very generous way, with presents, dinners, trips, etc.<\/p>\n

Finally, we\u2019re back on \u201cfriendly\u201d terms with my ex (the one I dated for four years). It seems that he got rid of the traits I despised in him, got himself a decent job. Our relationship is much more smooth now that we don\u2019t argue all the time. And he\u2019s still single, indicating he wants me back. The problem with is that I don\u2019t feel anything towards him anymore.<\/p>\n

I know I sound like a very egoistic woman, toying with all three, but help me to make my mind!\u00a0Should I continue considering those three, or move on and look for a fresh start? If not, whom should I choose \u2013 the ex I feel platonic towards, the wealthy man, or the one who is the nicest of them all but with a girlfriend?<\/p>\n

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