Popular T.V host Joselyn Dumas has explained she has no problem having sex with a friend because it can actually be a good indicator for upgrading a friendship into a relationship.
Joseyln, who was a participant discussing a controversial topic “can a man and a woman be just friends” on Super Morning Show Friday, said friends with benefits, comes with no pressure or obligations that characterize the tag of being somebody’s girlfriend or boyfriend.
Joining in to share their thoughts was Joy FM producer Sedem Ofori, Ghana’s popular playwright Uncle Ebo Whyte and writer, Nana Darkowaa Sekyiamah.
Uncle Ebo Whyte who believed sex complicates friendships said “it is possible [for man and a woman to be just friends] but the moment sex comes in the whole dimensions of a relationship changes, friendship should be allowed to grow” he said.
Sedem thought holding off sex in a friendship is in itself evidence that the possibility is real and shouldn’t be underestimated.
Relaxed and beaming, Joseyln threw out the fear of sex ruining a friendship, suggesting that while men and women can just be friends, sometimes sex could be needed to test if a relationship is possible.
“I think that when there is a tag in a relationship, it becomes a problem, then the expectations are quiet high, but when you have a friend with benefits you see how it goes, if it goes well, and we eventually decides that we are going to take it a step further, Kudos, but once this is my boyfriend, this is my girlfriend or am married, there is that pressure, I don’t personally like that, so I will have a friend with benefit”
Overall, the comments suggested that men and women might have very different goals and motives for “friendships”. Each looks at the responsibilities in friendship and love a bit differently.
As a result, men and women tend to co-create this friend zone confusion.