So, you scored with a sweet number at the bar. Congratulations, that was the easy part. You’ve probably asked her out on a date, and admit it, you’re kind of scared. First dates are tough and they can be awfully intimidating, which is the reason why many guys often find themselves doing Google searches on “First date advice for men.” And that’s probably how you got here. So, let’s get the facts straight, she already said YES. She didn’t accept a date with the person that was sitting next to you, or some guy at the bar or your alter ego. It was pretty straight forward, you asked her out, she said “yes”.
Now that the first part is over, you will need to pass another challenge, and that is, now she wants to get to know you. This is the part where you show her all your qualities that your friends and family love and enjoy about you, (and don’t shy away from asking them for reminders). Bring all of them to the table and she is definitely going to enjoy your company and if all goes well, look forward to seeing you again. So, this article isn’t going to be about the usual be-yourself- Oprah-istic BS, but rather on a few tips which you should use when going out on your first date.
You should always plan for a date that’ll take more than an hour. Whether you decide to go out for dinner, go out for a walk, play a game or do something adventurous, like kayaking, you will need to plan it out before hand. So, instead of meeting at the corner of somewhere and proceeding to walk north…or south, suggest a meeting spot and plan out the rest of your day.
Be on Time:
The second thing of first dates is to never be late. Remember that the only forgivable reason for showing up late and keeping your date waiting is if Godzilla was in town. Being late is the worst turn off ever, it doesn’t matter if you forgot to fill up on gas or you got stuck in traffic. The bottom line is, its part of showing respect to her. So, do the right thing and show up on time.
Chivalry is not dead, so be polite with everyone you come across during the date. That means, offer to open the door, all doors, whether it’ the car, horse carriage, restaurant, tank whatever. The second thing is, tell her she looks beautiful, compliment what she is wearing, her hair or personality. The third and most important thing of all, remember you planned the date, so pay for everything, (even if you didn’t plan the date), and don’t even think of asking her to split the cheque. Be courteous asking her if she is comfortable and if you can do something about it, fix it.
Saying stuff like “I don’t know, what do you think?” constantly is a major turn off for women. That doesn’t mean you have to be pushy or make all the decisions. So, if she gives you a few options of where to go on the date, pick one.
Dress to Impress:
Dressing for the occasion is dressing to impress. If you’re taking her out to dinner at a nice restaurant then wear casual clothes, like a collared shirt, fitted jeans or maybe even a necktie. If you’re going for a walk in the park, don’t wear a suit. The point is to be presentable, well groomed, hair cut and don’t forget to put your phone on vibrate, and while you’re at it, spray on some of that cologne. Remember what they say about first impressions.
…and Now, the Follow Up:
Forget about stupid rules like waiting at least twenty-four hours or three to four days (whatever the hell that means) before letting her know how much fun you had on your date. Letting her know you enjoyed her company the next day and if she feels the same way, she’ll get back to you and you two can plan the second date from there.
Argue with Self Criticism:
So what if the spark never happened? Did she reject you because you were not tall enough, smart enough, attractive enough, or even rich enough? What was the reason? These are some things guys ask themselves soon after she declines a second date. Guys start second guessing everything they did, didn’t do or said. That’s good, because if it didn’t work out, self criticism sometimes works in your favor in knowing what mistakes you made and making sure not to do them again. So, what was it? Forgetting to open the car door, ordering noodle soup or cracking a joke on how you got that scar on your middle finger.
So, there you have it, the tips that will keep you from being B.O.R.I.N.G, and help you get that second date to start the romance ball rolling.