While I understand that as men we tend to express love by what we DO rather than what we say, I do believe there are some ways that we can meet the emotional needs of our mates by doing a few things differently. These are things we aren’t necessarily taught. And without it being modeled, how do you learn them? With that said, ask yourself these questions men… and I hope these tips help!
1. Make telling her you love her a habit!
know that for many men mentioning the “L” word automatically puts you in a position of weakness, but I’m here to tell you that she needs to hear it. She doesn’t just need to hear it when you are trying to make up for a wrong doing, but she needs to hear it just because you woke up next to her. What you may feel is mushy or soft, makes her feel like your relationship is secure and strong. Make it a habit to tell her you love her.
2. Listen to her…no really listen to her!
As men, we are so solution oriented that we sometimes won’t even let her finish her sentence before we are trying to figure out how to fix her problem. Sometimes for her, she just needs you to listen, and what you will find is that just by listening she will come up with her own solution. She leaves that conversation feeling loved not because you gave her a solution, but because you listened to her problem.
3. Kiss and touch her just because
The power of touch is essential in a relationship. Taking that extra second to kiss her before you leave or to kiss her while she is cooking means so much to her. It’s a small part of intimacy that keeps you connected and it helps her to feel loved and reassured. Holding her hand when you are out means more to her than you know. Sometimes as we get settled in a relationship we forget that showing affection is what keeps us connected.
4. Make her a priority
es I’ve been guilty of this one as well, but now that I’m conscious of it I have made changes. Sometimes as men because we feel like our duty is to provide, we can sometimes put our jobs and careers before our mate. We only make time for her in between time, when sometimes she just wants you to choose her first! Yes CHOOSE HER FIRST! I’m not saying you have to do this every day, but making her a priority makes her feel loved and when she feels loved she will make sure you have everything you need to keep being great in your career!
5. Notice her
Men our women are always doing things to try and get our attention and it’s up to us to notice it. When she changes her hair, buys a new outfit, puts on a different fragrance…. it’s imperative that you don’t just think it looks or smells good, it’s important to her that you ACKNOWLEDGE it. A big part of loving your woman is being in tune with her, and this shows that you are in tune…. besides she is probably doing it for you anyway!
“Ain’t nobody ever took the time to try to teach me what love was…!” That was his cry in the song as Musiq pleaded for his woman to, “teach me how to love!” The truth is that many times men are taught how to be strong and tough, but we aren’t taught that sometimes our strength lies in our ability to be soft and in our ability to love!
“Ain’t nobody ever took the time to try to teach me what love was…!” That was his cry in the song as Musiq pleaded for his woman to, “teach me how to love!” The truth is that many times men are taught how to be strong and tough, but we aren’t taught that sometimes our strength lies in our ability to be soft and in our ability to love!
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