Reasons You Should Delay s*x if You Want a Real Relationship


A promising relationship can be derailed when both people have premature s*x before getting to know each other and learning if they are truly compatible. Premature s*x rushes things and creates an imaginary bond that isn’t strong enough to sustain a long-term relationship.

Premature s*x = Lust

Having s*x early on gives a man very little incentive to get to know who you are. When a man doesn’t know who you truly are, the s*x he has with you is based on lust (i.e. physical gratification), instead of a real like or love (i.e. deep emotional connection).

A woman tends to feel an emotional connection after having s*x, even when she doesn’t really know who the man is. If the s*x is amazing, oxytocin will trick you into thinking you’re compatible, even if he isn’t the right man for you. You’ll tend to fall for him soon after based on the illusion of who you think he is.

As you continue to have s*x, your feelings become stronger and you feel more connected to him. You may even think you love him, when you actually lust for him.

Easy Come, Easy Go

s*xual encounters that are premature lead to short-term or on-again, off-again relationships that are about hanging out and hooking up. A man who sleeps with a woman who is quick to sleep with him, doesn’t think of this woman as someone to settle down with. His perception of an “easy woman” is easy come, easy go. She’s fine to sleep with, but isn’t marriage material.

If you find yourself having s*x with a man early on, even if you tell him you don’t usually sleep with a man so soon, he won’t believe you because your actions show otherwise.

Take a Hiatus from s*x

If you want a real relationship with a man you really like and have been sleeping with him early on, stop having s*x to see if you are both compatible. Taking a hiatus from s*x will also show you if he is interested in the real you or just wants you for s*x. A man who is just looking for s*x will have no interest in getting to know you and will soon leave. While this may initially be hurtful, it’s best to know sooner than later.

A man who wants a genuine relationship will respect your wishes of taking a hiatus from s*x until you get to know each other. He may not be happy about it, but will be okay with it. Learn what’s most important to him, what his values are, what his family is like, how he treats others, what he thinks about different topics, how he views the world, etc. Let him get to know you too.

Taking the time to learn about each other will reveal how compatible you are outside of the bedroom. If you’re both connected on a mind, body and soul level, this increases the possibility for your connection to turn into a lasting relationship.

The Bottom Line

If you want to be in a long-term relationship, delay s*x until you are married. In doing so, you are knowing your worth by placing a higher value on yourself. As a result, you’ll attract a higher quality man who treats you with the love and respect you deserve.