Let’s face it, nothing feels quite like having someone special in your life – a significant other to call your own.
But ask yourself this. Are you making the mistake of assuming you’re in a committed relationship with a man you’re dating?The truth is, just because you’re dating, enjoying each other’s company and sleeping together doesn’t necessarily mean he’s on the same when it comes to your involvement.
If you’re unsure about where you really stand with a guy, these 6 tell-tale signs can help you determine if he’s as committed as you are.
1. He Runs Hot and Cold
Does he exhibit unreliable and flaky behavior? This is often a good indicator that he’s “shopping around.”
If he appears totally into you one minute, then can’t remember your name the next, his confusion is probably the result of him entertaining other options.
2. He Never Introduces You As His Girlfriend
If he’s introducing you as “a good friend” instead of his “girlfriend,” to friends and acquaintances, take heed! More than likely, he doesn’t view you as “his.”
3. He Never Uses Romantic Terms of Endearment
Another tactic a guy may use to keep the relationship from seeming too serious is to use verbiage that conveys he sees his involvement with you as casual. For example, if he always uses playful, yet neutral nick names such as “Kiddo” and “pal” instead of referring to you as honey, sugar or baby, chances are he doesn’t think of you as “his woman.”
4. He Only Wants to See You at His Convenience
If your involvement is lopsided and you’re only spending time with him on his schedule and on his terms, then more than likely, you’re not a priority for him.
5. He Doesn’t Invite You to Special Events or Social Engagements
When a man is truly committed to you, he wants you to be involved in some of the activities he enjoys and functions that are important to him Not that you have to do everything together, but if he never asks you to come with, odds are pretty good that he doesn’t view you as his lady.
6. He’s Always “Missing In Action”
If you’re constantly unable to reach him or consistently don’t hear from him over several hours and even days, it’s a pretty safe be the’s seeing other women.Knowing where you really stand with a guy will not only prevent you from wasting time with a man who isn’t ready or interested in something more meaningful; understanding that he may not see your relationship the same way will keep you from feeling betrayed and becoming disappointed and hurt.
Realizing that you and he are not a couple also frees you up to avail yourself of other options and is a great way to let a guy know that he’s not the only “bull in the stall.” This will get his attention and may even cause him to step up and stop taking you for granted.