4 Darkest Secrets Of The So-Called Happy Couples

images (6)How do you stack up against other couples? This surprising research puts it into perspective.
Looking around you, it looks like all of your happily-taken friends are on cloud nine, right? The Joneses are expecting twins. The Robertsons are sending their oldest child off to college. And the Smiths are giddily announcing on Facebook that they’re taking an ahhh-mazing vacation to Hawaii next month.
Meanwhile, you and your partner suffer in silence. The two of you have settled into a comforting if not admittedly boring routine in the middle of solidifying your life together. And while the flames of passion haven’t fizzled out completely, they’ve diminished to a dull burn. You’re haunted with the question that plagues so many other couples: Are you as happy as everyone else? And, perhaps an even scarier question, what does that mean if you’re not?

We dug into the most compelling studies out there to answer the question you’ve always secretly wondered but were afraid to ask: How do you stack up against other happy couples? And we came up with some surprising results to help you put your own relationship into perspective. After all, happiness is relative and “happy couples” are not always as they seem.

1. Cheaters Are Happy In Their Relationships (Really)
We hate to break it to you, but keeping your partner happy at home doesn’t make your life together affair-proof. In fact, most self-admitted cheaters surprisingly described themselves as “happy” in their relationships. According to a study by Rutgers University, 56 percent of married men who had affairs said they were happy in their marriages, nonetheless.

2. Happy Couples Fight Regularly
Or more specifically, couples who have one healthy argument a week. A study out of Florida State University found that couples who made a habit of having “angry but honest” conversations were happier in the long run. (Still, that doesn’t mean you should rant like a sailor. Out of 100,000 people surveyed for The Normal Bar, 90% of the happiest individuals have never cursed at their partners.)

3. Having A Lot Of s*x Does Not (Always) Make You Happier
They say that the happiest couples are the most sexually active. In the media, studies are published constantly that endorse the benefits of gettin’ it on with your partner … but what they never clarify is that this doesn’t mean you should jump into bed with each other right away. In 2012, researchers from Cornell University studied nearly 600 married and cohabitating couples in order to investigate the connection between the timing of when these couples first had s*x to their later perceptions of relationship quality. The results? Waiting at least a month to have s*x at the beginning of the relationship helped their chances of being happy later down the line. Therefore, having s*x too early can hurt your chances at happiness.

4. “So In Love” On Facebook? It’s A Lie
For all of those couples you know who share an obnoxious stream of couplies, date night check-ins and sappy status updates: be warned. There is actually an argument to be made for not making things between you two “Facebook official.” According to a report of 1.3 million Facebook users, relationship staying power depends on “social dispersion.” In other words, couples in a mutual circle of friends were more likely to break up. In another twist, four out of five couples actually point the finger at Facebook for their breakup! (And that’s a different kind of “Facebook official.”)

Source: YourTango.com