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Being a perfectionist isn\u2019t about things being\u00a0perfect; it\u2019s about thinking things need to be perfect\u00a0and vigilantly pursuing it. Emotionally, this means that\u00a0instead of living your life in a place of self-acceptance, perfectionists are on a continual
treadmill chasing the elusive feeling of having\u00a0everything in their lives be \u201cright.\u201d But even when the\u00a0brief satisfaction of \u201cright\u201d is achieved, it\u2019s\u00a0temporary. Then it\u2019s on the to next level,\u00a0achievement, or day of needing to make everything
\u201cright.\u201d Most perfectionists smile beautifully on the\u00a0outside, but feel frustrated, exhausted and\u00a0unappreciated on the inside.
Here are the difficulties of a perfectionist<\/p>\n
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1. Trouble in Relationships:
It\u2019s very difficult to be in a romantic relationship with a\u00a0perfectionist. Their expectations and demands are\u00a0extremely high, and their partners often feel\u00a0inadequate and pressured. In relationships,\u00a0perfectionists often feel disappointed, angry and\u00a0resentful. In friendships, they will always go out of\u00a0their way to be supportive and gracious, but they also
can be competitive, rigid, and very passive-aggressive.<\/p>\n
2. Always Anxious and Exhausted:
The perfectionist lives with continuous anxiety about\u00a0what needs to be accomplished. Unfortunately the\u00a0perfectionist\u2019s response to anxiety is to work harder\u00a0and accomplish more and more and more. This leaves\u00a0them exhausted and miserable most of the time.<\/p>\n
3. A Deeper Sense of Shame:
The perfectionist is usually very intolerant of mess\u00a0and disorganization. They believe that if they can make\u00a0their outside environment look a certain way, that\u00a0means that everything is good and safe on the inside.\u00a0This is often an attempt to get away from deeper\u00a0internal feelings of toxic shame. These are the\u00a0feelings inside of them that are more messy, painful
and disorganized\u2014the feelings that are difficult to\u00a0articulate, define or resolve immediately.<\/p>\n
4. Earning Your Specialness:
A perfectionist\u2019s core internal belief tends to be they\u00a0are not good enough or special the way they are. They believe their value comes from perfect production,\u00a0achievement and service in every aspect of their life.\u00a0When one feels like they have to constantly earn their\u00a0place as \u201cgood\u201d in the world, it means living with a\u00a0deeper sense that you don\u2019t deserve to just exist and\u00a0be loved for who you are.
The key point is that perfectionism grows from a\u00a0point of feeling not only imperfect, but deeply\u00a0flawed and therefore, unlovable. If you have to\u00a0constantly re-earn or re-prove your worth\u2014even if\u00a0it\u2019s to yourself\u2014you are running on a never-ending\u00a0treadmill of external achievements that will not bring\u00a0you a joy that lasts. The thing to always keep in mind is\u00a0that true internal acceptance and peace does not\u00a0come from changing what is outside of you.<\/p>\n
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Remember lasting change always entails shifting and\u00a0understanding what\u2019s inside of you. You will never\u00a0hustle your way into self-love.<\/p>\n
AD ===> A Former One Minute Man Who Now Last 30mins In Bed Reveals The Secret Of His New Strength<\/p>\n
Being a perfectionist isn\u2019t about things being\u00a0perfect; it\u2019s about thinking things need to be perfect\u00a0and vigilantly pursuing it. Emotionally, this means that\u00a0instead of living your life in a place of self-acceptance, perfectionists are on a continualtreadmill chasing the elusive feeling of having\u00a0everything in their lives be \u201cright.\u201d But even when the\u00a0brief satisfaction of \u201cright\u201d is […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":0,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-363040","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2013\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/363040","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2013\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2013\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2013\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=363040"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2013\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/363040\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2013\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=363040"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2013\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=363040"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2013\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=363040"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
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