Many of us have been swimming in the \u2018dating pool\u2019 for years now, and while it\u2019s great for upper body strength, we still can\u2019t find ourselves ashore with those that are in relationships. So, let me share with you my Top 10 Dating Rules, in the hopes that
I\u2019m saving you and reminding myself of all the crap and confusion involved with dating the opposite s*x.<\/p>\n
1. Leave your wallet in the car. I\u2019m sorry but,
if you\u2019re on a date with a real man, then the man is going to pay. No, you shouldn\u2019t have to go half on the bill or pay every other date. Your suitor should always pay or offer to pay, and if you decide that you wanted to pay for that night, you may. By no means, am I condoning selfishness, but in these modern times, there aren\u2019t many gender roles lingering around. Therefore, your date should be looking for any moment available to assert himself (be a man.) At the very least, it is a nice gesture.<\/p>\n
2. Keep an open mind. I know, I know. He\u2019s two inches shorter than you, needs a manicure, and played \u201cWe Wish You a Merry Christmas\u201d with his dinner utensils. Get to know him. Under all the mess, you may find out he\u2019s a nice guy who missed his manicure appointment and the short gene skips
a generation in his family. Seriously, there aren\u2019t as many options as we\u2019d like to hope, so why eliminate the ones who could become an option.<\/p>\n
3. Take mental notes. If possible, remember\u00a0EVERYTHING that he says. It is great material in case you need to catch him in a lie, prepare for future arguments or (necessarily) make quick judgments so you can get the hell out of dodge. Especially, when you guys get to the commitment\u00a0talk, he might want to throw around that he\u2019s not ready for a relationship, although you could have sworn on the second date he said he was \u2018looking\u2019.<\/p>\n
4. Let him plan some of the dates. There\u2019s\u00a0two reasons: let\u2019s the man feel like a man and you can observe his character. As women we love to plan things ( I know I do), and sometimes we tend to take the leadership role in the relationship. You plan the date from A to Z, and the man just needs to show up ( and probably, in the outfit you suggested.) Doing this time after time will either have him relinquish his \u201cpower\u201d or be silently frustrated with you. Also, having him to decide where to go and what to do, enables you to see how romantic, spontaneous, or creative he can be. It keeps him vested in the relationship, rather than just going along with the relationship.<\/p>\n
5. Play Around. The more you turn them\u00a0down and make them feel inferior, the more they want you and respect you. It\u2019s sick, but true. Of course, I\u2019m not saying you should literally treat him like an ugly step child, but I do suggest treating him like he is expendable. If you want the upper hand in\u00a0the dating field, this is how you do that. Don\u2019t always jump to answer his calls, let him wonder what you are doing. When he wants to take you out, let him know you\u2019ll be available after you \u2018check your schedule\u2019. In this sense, playing around kind of means, being emotionally unavailable. The moment a guy senses that you are needy or desperate, he will be running the other direction.
So, treat him like crap, and he\u2019ll be running towards you.<\/p>\n
6. Don\u2019t get too comfortable, too fast. It\u2019s\u00a0only been two months, so what happened to the miniskirts, the carefully, careless hair and sweet perfume. Now you \u2019fashion\u2019 the messy ponytail, your house clothes became your going out clothes, and the only scent he smells is the farts that trail from your behind. Throughout any relationship, you
have to try to keep things fresh. Remind him every now and then, why he chose to date you in the first place. As soon as he forgets, he\u2019s searching for the next new and cute lady within in reach.<\/p>\n
7. Don\u2019t plan the wedding. Yes, he\u2019s gorgeous, he\u2019s funny, and he works! You\u2019ve known him for two weeks and he hasn\u2019t pissed you off yet. Great, but don\u2019t pick your wedding song,just yet. I can line up 4 presumably great guys, and still wouldn\u2019t be able to guarantee that at least one of\u00a0them was your future husband. Dating is never that easy. I definitely wouldn\u2019t suggest jumping into every date hoping that this one is your groom. Take your time and see where it goes, so that if this one\u00a0turns out to be a dud it won\u2019t crush you too much.<\/p>\n
8. No s*x!!! s*x blinds the man and\u00a0confuses the lady. When you take s*x out of the present agenda, you see each other eye to eye, not pelvis to pelvis. We\u2019re adults and we know how good s*x is and how hard it is not to have s*x. However, avoid being alone together, near a bed or couch if you can\u2019t handle the pressure. Go out and get to know each other.<\/p>\n
9. Date one guy at a time. Dating one man at a time, will allow you to concentrate and find out if he is one loser.<\/p><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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