Relationships – Top 6 Social Habits You Should Avoid.
Whether you are talking up a cute girl or taking lunch with some dude, you always want to put your best foot forward, and that means more than telling a funny joke. Here is a list of the top social tics to avoid in communication, dating or relationship. Body language is important, as is actual language used and the direction in which your eyes are focused. So check out this list to see if you are guilty of any of these and make amends.
1. Picking at your body
When some guys are nervous, they get twitchy. They scratch their noses every two seconds or repeatedly run their fingers through their hair. Constantly touching and adjusting yourself shows that you’re nervous. It can even gross some people out. So keep your hands under control. It’s important to seem steady and relaxed.
2. Interrupting people
We all like to be the center of attention. But it is important to recognize that there is a good center of attention and bad center of attention. It is good to be charismatic, funny, and engaging. It is bad to interrupt and talk over people. Interrupting people is rude. Wait for an acceptable opening before speaking. You don’t want to look like you’re trying too hard to get noticed.
3. The jitters
You know that vibrating leg thing you do sometimes when you are uncomfortable or waiting impatiently? That thing where your leg gyrates like a coin-operated washing machine, subtly shaking everything within a five-foot radius? Don’t do that thing. No one is rubbing your belly — at least we hope not. No guy gets the jitters when he is calm and relaxed, so when you do it, you are essentially telling the world that you’re on edge.
4. Shifty Eyes
Shifty eyes comprise another social tic to avoid. When engaging someone in conversation, your eyes communicate almost as much as your mouth does. Try to keep your eyes from darting back and forth uncontrollably. We know it can sometimes be intimidating to maintain eye contact with a pretty girl or an handsome guy, but constantly scanning the room like you’re waiting for the Navy SEALs to bust in makes you look shifty. If you’re talking to a woman, it’s especially important to keep your eyes in check. Specifically, don’t let them roam too much. When you check out the girl in the next booth over, she notices — “she” being your date and not the girl. And when you glance at her cleavage, she notices that too.
Sometimes a well-placed swearword can really get the point across. Sometimes it adds a bit of sauce to a joke or humor to an anecdote, but you have to be careful with salty language. Not everyone uses it, and some people are offended by it. As a general rule, don’t swear when you are trying to pass a message across. Don’t swear in the company of people you don’t know well. Be especially careful around women. There’s still something to be said about watching your mouth in front of a lady or a guy.
6. Glancing at your phone
Despite what you have heard, you don’t actually need to be connected to your entire social network 24/7. Constantly glancing at your phone is the most infuriating social tic of the 21st century. Are you really so important that you need to be on call at all times? Take a break from your Blackberry and have a real-life conversation. When meeting someone new, either turn off your phone or risk turning them off for good. If you want, you can even plainly show that you are turning it off. Whoever you are with will be flattered by your show of undivided attention.