Being too much of a nice guy will make it hard for you to get the girl of your dreams. This is because the most desirable girls get a lot of attention from guys and can get guys to like them without even trying. If you act like you’ll do anything for one of these girls, they’ll write you off as just another one of the million other nice guys that will bend over backwards for them. You have to be less of a nice guy to distinguish yourself from the crowd. This doesn’t mean you have to completely change who you are or act like a jerk, but it does mean you have to do things a little differently to show her you’re not going to be taken for a ride. If you’re unsure whether or not you’re too much of a nice guy, continue reading.
Buy Her Lots Of Stuff
One of the easiest ways to show her you’re too much of a nice guy is to buy her stuff and take her out all of the time. If you do this, you don’t present any challenge to her and treat her like she’s already won you over. Even if this is the case, she should have a stronger connection with you before you open your wallet to her. If you’re buying her flowers and taking her out to a fancy restaurant on a first date, you’ll probably waste your money and creep her out. Instead, have her pay her way through the first date or two and keep it casual.
Always Let Her Decide Things
If you let her make every single decision because you don’t want to upset her, you’re being too much of a nice guy. This tells her that what she wants matters more than what you want. Even if you’re truly a more passive person, you should take charge every once in a while so she feels like you can be the man when you need to be.
Change Yourself To Match What She Likes
If you make significant changes to your personality and interests, you’re being too much of a nice guy. Doing this tells a girl that what you care about doesn’t matter and that’s not something you want to convey. It is however still important to take an interest in what she’s interested in, but it isn’t necessary to completely change yourself to match.
Now here comes the tricky part. A lot of times, girls will try to change guys with the genuine intention to improve them. A lot of guys can be resistant and even hostile towards this type of change and will do anything to avoid it. If a girl gives you a friendly suggestion about your appearance or demeanor, you should probably listen to her. This is especially true for the clothes you wear and your posture. If you’re doing something one girl finds unattractive, chances are other girls will feel the same way. So do yourself a favor and take these suggestions to heart. But if she tells you to burn your collection Japanese horror movies and replace them with romantic comedies, just say no.
Let Her Treat You Poorly
The worst thing thing nice guys do is that they let girls treat them poorly. This happens because some guys are intimidated by girls with good looks and strong personalities. If you let a girl like this treat you poorly, it makes you look bad and it just isn’t fun. Also, when a girl gets the idea that she can push you around, it can be hard to change that. If you’re being treated poorly by a girl, have some back bone and stand up for yourself or find someone else.
Always Agree With Her
This is one of the biggest downfalls of an overly nice guy. If you constantly agree with what she says, it demonstrates to her that you are weak and have low self confidence. If you ask any girl what they look for in a man, weakness and low self confidence are never mentioned. Girls can be intimidating, especially the ones that are incredibly attractive. If you always agree with a girl and don’t have the strength to disagree with her, you’re going to be seen as just another nice guy. This doesn’t mean you’ll be a stud if you always disagree with her. Just believe in yourself enough to disagree with her if you need to.
Put Her On A Pedestal
If you’re ever unsure if something you’re doing is making you look like too much of a nice guy, ask yourself if what you’re doing puts her on a pedestal. When you put a girl on a pedestal, you’re telling her you think you’re below her and she can do whatever she wants. This is definitely not a good thing if you’re interested in her and is something you should avoid.