Are You Familiar with the 7 Rings of Marriage?
Click through the 7 rings of marriage. What ring of marriage are you wearing right now? If it is a tough fit, how can you make it through to the next rings?
1. Engagement RING:
This is the beginning. You have found that special someone and you are wide open! You see happily ever after in your future, and don’t see anything else. Your vision is nothing but love. The engagement ring of marriage is full of love, hope, and possibility.
2. Wedding RING:
You finally did it! You said “I do” to the girl or guy of your dreams. You two have become one. You get to see each other every day and night without any guilt. What’s yours is his/hers, what’s his/hers is yours. This is the ‘walking around the house with nothing on… feeling good’ stage. Life and marriage is the B.O.M.B.
Uh oh! Now the smoke is cleared. You see him/her every day, but some of the stuff you wish you didn’t see. Can he pick his socks up off the floor at least one time? Was she always late to everything? Being honest with yourself, had you known what you know now, you might not have gotten to the wedding ring stage. This ring is an eye opener.
You are now at the down and dirty part of marriage. The part that makes couples say, marriage takes “work!” The Bible says if you don’t work, you don’t eat. I think this applies to marriage first. Because if you don’t work in your marriage you will not eat the fruit.
If you said “I’m all in” through the first four rings, believed in the vision you had with the engagement ring, and didn’t let anything take down your marriage, then you can begin to put back some broken pieces. You’ve learned your spouse is not perfect and vice versa, but you love anyway. And you ain’t going nowhere! As a matter of fact, you plan to do everything you can to not just stay together, but to enjoy staying together.
This is the stage that you were so excited, and blinded by, early on. Now it is a reality. You’ve enjoyed ups, downs, issues, haters, and everything else. But it didn’t kill your marriage, it strengthened your marriage. You have one of those Still Standing marriages. Your marriage isn’t issue free, but those issues no longer impact you like they used to. You are loving being married to your spouse, and it shows.
7. The MentoRING:
You have made it through six rings of marriage. Half of marriages don’t make it at all, and even fewer get to witness the prospering in their marriage. When this stage comes you recognize this, and you begin to teach others what you’ve experienced in marriage. Your mentoring may be just with your kids, it may be through some couples you know, or, like Lamar and Ronnie, it may be a full-fledged online movement to help marriages. At this stage, you help everyone you can wear the prospeRING.