[Advice Needed] We Have Been Dating For Two Years, And He Never Talked About Marriage. What Should I Do?
I am 21 years old and I am in love with a guy who is 31 years old. We have been dating for 2 years now and he has not talked about marriage. He is the kind of man I would love to spend the rest of my life with. Last night, we were just joking and I made mention of becoming a born again Christian, and he said he said he has the same thing on his mind. He said he would become a pastor and he would even preach on the television and he will prophesy to me that I will get married to a very rich guy. Within me, I was just like what does this guy mean? Does it mean I am not the kind of girl he wants to marry or is he just joking? Truly, I am worried. Please help!
Well, I think a guy who wants to have a future with you would plan with you. A two year relationship is a long one….. I think he should have mentioned settling down with you on a few occasions, considering his age. Even if he is not financially buoyant now to settle down for marriage, nothing stops him from planning the future with you, if he is really interested in you. Anyway, he might be passing a message across or he might be not mean what he said with the joke. I think you should simply ask him where he sees himself in the next 4, 5 years and hear what his response would be. If you are not a part of where he sees himself in the future, then that should give you a clue. You can go further to ask him what his plans for marriage are, but then I would not want you to ask him in a way where he would feel you are pushing things or acting desperate. if you are not part of his plans for the future, please take a walk from the relationship. I also implore you to give your life to your creator just as you planned, don’t wait to take that decision.
All the best,
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