[Advice Needed] She Is Keen On Having s*x With Her Ex!!! What Should I Do?
I am 27 years old and I am an optometrist. I am presently doing my NYSC. I met a girl who is also serving and we have dated for 5 months now. I love her so much and intend settling down with her as soon as I get a permanent job. I have made my intentions known to her and I always tell her how much I love and I render some financial help to her as well. When I met her, she actually told me she had a relationship with a guy, but they were not so serious. I noticed she still sends love messages to the other guy and even calls him a lot. This is the 3rd time I asked her who she really wants between the guy and I and she keeps telling me that she’s confused. I asked her what her response would be to the guy if she goes visiting him and he asked for s*x. Guess what! She told me she would make love to the guy. It was so painful, I asked her same question after some days and she gave me same answer. I am really confused here, I don’t play games, I don’t cheat, I need to be in a serious relationship that will lead to marriage. I am not growing any younger and I need to get focused in life. Please, what do I do?
I am sorry about what you are facing in your relationship. But then, I think her heart is still with the other guy. How would she be courageous to tell you she would have s*x with another guy? That is really amazing. Bro, you are just a joke to this girl in question, you are not the one she wants, you are the only one who is serious with this relationship. Fact is she told you she is confused about who to pick, she has already declared to you that you are not who she wants, you are the one forcing yourself on her…. I think you should let go of this lady. Why stick with someone who consider you as an option? You deserve better, if only you can recognize this fact. The fact that you want to get married soon and you love her does not mean you should stick in a toxic relationship like this one. Why should you settle for less? You deserve someone who would love you in return…. Let her go, be patient for your own woman…. Her heart is not with you and no matter how you try, she would always long for the other guy, because it is obvious that is who she really want.
All the best,
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