[Advice Needed] He Beats Me To Coma, Should I Forgive Him?
I cannot forgive my boyfriend. I am 24, and he is 26 and we have a 2 year old relationship. He is very short tempered. He has never hit me before, but this beating that he gave me is just so terrible. He beat me to the extent that I went unclad in our compound, and everyone had to see my indecency. As I write, my left eye is swollen and I got discharged from the hospital yesterday. What should I do? I love him very much, but what I feel for him now is hatred. He has been apologizing since then, but I feel so bad for what he did. His parents, friends and pastor have been begging me to accept him back, but it seems so impossible. I am so confused. What should I do?
I understand that you are really hurt right now. Actually, I see guys that beat women as fake men who do not understand themselves and are neither capable of their women nor emotionally stable. It is a very bad of men to beat up women…. Anyway, I think everybody deserves a second chance and your boyfriend is not an exception. If you said that he has been beating you up before, I would have advised you to pick a race and never accept him back again, but since this happened to be the first time, I want to believe it is a mistake which should never happen again. As hard as it looks, you should forgive him and accept him again, he also needs to seriously address his anger problems because he cannot continue to have a short temper. Talk senses into him and tell his pastor to also talk to him. Give him a second chance, should he repeat this action, quit and never go back into the relationship.
I am sorry about what you went through dear, wish you well.