1. Focus on his flaws
Yeah, he’s got amazing biceps, but he also has a gym selfie as the wallpaper on his own phone. He might send you cute texts, but he doesn’t know the difference between “your” and “you’re.” Your infatuation with this dude has come about because you’re focusing on all the amazing parts about him.
2. Go on no-contact
I know, I know — you love talking to him, so how on earth are you going to just STOP? Unfortunately, cutting off contact with the object of your affection is often the only way to curb your obsession for them.
3. Eliminate all evidence of him from your life
Yep, even that hoodie he loaned you that you keep “forgetting” to give back to him. You don’t have to burn it, but at least bury it in your closet for a while instead of wearing it around the house or sleeping in it. If you have pictures together on social media, take them down. Do your best to get rid of everything that reminds you of him.
4. Find a new crush
Easier said than done, right? But just the effort of looking for someone else to occupy your mind can be the distraction you need. Sometimes all we need is to spread our infatuation out a little bit so it’s not all concentrated on one person.
5. Go out and have fun
When we’re down about being rejected or missing someone we care about, going out in public can be one of the last things we want to do. But it’s often the perfect thing to get your mind off the object of your obsession.
6. Stay away from things that remind you of him
That means NOT listening to that song on the radio and NOT going into that restaurant he used to work at. It doesn’t have to be a forever thing — just long enough to allow your mind to break the connection between him and the places and things you associate with him.
7. Focus on your own happiness
It sounds so cliche, I know, but when you develop a fixation on another person, you tend to invest all your happiness in him. Your good mood depends on whether or not he “liked” your latest selfie on Instagram, and you drive yourself crazy wondering if the reason he hasn’t responded to your text is because he’s hooking up with another girl right at that very moment. It’s hard to work your way out of that web of stress, but you’ll make it easier.
8. Be honest with yourself
The reason he hasn’t asked you to hang out isn’t because he’s busy; it’s because he doesn’t want to hang out with you. He’s not spending time with that new girl just to make you jealous; he’s doing it because he actually likes her.