Relationships come with ups and downs. Just as you might find certain aspects of dating annoying, there are some things that most guys simply dread as well. Believe me, I’ve been there. Below is a list of four relationship milestones that many guys secretly dread, along with some advice for how to make the experience more positive for your man.
1. The Talk.
OK, we’ve gone over this one before. Gearing up for the “What Are We?” conversation can feel burdensome if we aren’t feeling ready but know you are. In fact, it makes us really nervous even if we do want to take that step. Nevertheless, beware that this is a milestone that will (fingers crossed) lead to victory in most cases. Remember this: Don’t pressure him; just let him know how you feel about him.
Most guys won’t complain when you say you want to spend the night. I mean…that sounds pretty good to us. However, some guys really like their space and have a hard time conceding some of their privacy on a regular basis. Keep this in mind as you continue dating and start to develop a sleepover routine. Go back and forth between your place and his, and when he doesn’t invite you over now and again, don’t take it too personally! Men love to sprawl out for a good snore.
3. Your Parents.
Meeting the parents is always nerve-racking—for everyone involved. So much anxiety comes along with this relationship milestone. Besides praying that it goes well, do your best to give everyone a proper introduction before the in-person meeting, and don’t forget that when it’s your parents, you need to play the friendly socialite and bounce around the conversations to put everyone on ease. The last thing a guy wants is to be put on the spot and interrogated by his girlfriend’s parents, so don’t let him do all the talking; chime in and help him out with some encouragement, whether it’s just some shoulder patting or agreeing with what he’s got to say.
4. Moving In.
We all reach a time, especially in our mid- to late-twenties, when we consider taking the next step with our significant other. This is a huge deal and should not be taken lightly. I think couples should only take this step if you both are up for the exciting challenge. Consider your personal preferences and goals; you don’t want to be in the position of begging a “Mr. Big”-type guy to move in with you, nor do you want to grant a slacker boyfriend permission to crash at your place indefinitely. If you’re not on the same page, it’s not just a sign that you shouldn’t move in together but maybe that you’re not with the right person at all.
At the end of the day, these moments are all stepping stones need to be conquered by the both of you, together, so never forget you are batting for the same side. If it starts to feel like a battle, you might just not be on the same page. Otherwise, each of these moments, while anxiety-inducing, should ultimately feel like a “win” once they’re done.